Can a younger man with an older woman work? - Discussions, questions

nutelina It´s much harder for the woman so I wouldn´t worry about it so much...

Astro-Seek.com System message: Post has been written by user jerrynna, who already deleted profile on this website:
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why not? how much is the age gap?

Astro-Seek.com » jerrynna System message: Post has been written by user emerauxe, who already deleted profile on this website:
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13 years.

Astro-Seek.com » nutelina System message: Post has been written by user emerauxe, who already deleted profile on this website:
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It can be when complete strangers ask the woman if that´s your son.

Conversely they will ask the man if that´s your mother.

nutelina » emerauxe No doesn´t work for 13 years but I had a friend who was 15 years older and I was very stupid to let her go for someone younger. She was lovely. It´s Cancer rising perhaps, wanting to please everyone, she was Scorpio.

Astro-Seek.com » emerauxe System message: Post has been written by user jerrynna, who already deleted profile on this website:
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ah c‘mon that‘s not that much. i was having an affair with a 21 year old guy when i was 33. sometimes it was a bit weird, mostly i felt he was too young for me but we did get along well. I think it depends on the person and a bit on the age. under 25 are often very immature, that can be a problem. but if this is about you with a 13 years older lady i don‘t think this should be such a big deal.

Astro-Seek.com » nutelina System message: Post has been written by user emerauxe, who already deleted profile on this website:
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Ruling out having children, it does not seem insurmountable with her greater experience and worldliness she will be a better companion when the passion wanes.

Astro-Seek.com » jerrynna System message: Post has been written by user emerauxe, who already deleted profile on this website:
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I think she is more reluctant than I am to get more involved.

I do look young for my age. I am willing to be just her friend, even though she does excite me physically, because she is so intellectually stimulating to me.

ancient_astrology I had a 41 year old girlfriend when I was 29. We had a great relationship. There may be people that talk shit about you, like, "What´s the matter with him, can´t he find a girl his own age" or "he must be looking for a sugar mamma". Fuck them. If you get along well with the lady, proceed. Yes, it can work.

nutelina » emerauxe If you want children you´d better think a lot about it. But for guys it doesn´t really matter when you have them but they are a lot of work! Maybe you´d want your best years to have kids!

Astro-Seek.com » emerauxe System message: Post has been written by user jerrynna, who already deleted profile on this website:
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see, I‘m in love with a 25 year older guy and I better don‘t think about it too much but honestly, I don‘t care what society has to say about it. All that matters is how the relationship is. I think it can be of great value for the both of you to have such a difference. Plus sex can be great. So enjoy your time, make the best of it and fuck society.

Astro-Seek.com » ancient_astrology System message: Post has been written by user emerauxe, who already deleted profile on this website:
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I appreciate your encouragement, Ancient.

Astro-Seek.com » jerrynna System message: Post has been written by user emerauxe, who already deleted profile on this website:
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It is harder for her since she is more conventional and cautious than I am.

I also think she is afraid that I will hurt her and make her feel like an old fool.

Astro-Seek.com » emerauxe System message: Post has been written by user emerauxe, who already deleted profile on this website:
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It´s the looking ahead to the future that is daunting and stops people from going forward. 45 is relatively young but in 15 years she will be 60 and instead of living in the moment today, she is projecting our relationship into the future.

Astro-Seek.com » emerauxe System message: Post has been written by user jerrynna, who already deleted profile on this website:
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ah ok.. I understand.

<< I am willing to be just her friend, even though she does excite me physically, because she is so intellectually stimulating to me.>>

I feel you :)
So, don‘t be too shy or insecure there, she probably wants an equal and you can be her equal. Just don‘t get too insecure about your differences. Level up and show it to her. You sound like you are smitten by her and I feel you should take a chance

Astro-Seek.com System message: Post has been written by user emerauxe, who already deleted profile on this website:
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I see that the Moon has changed signs into Virgo and I´m not as emotional right now, and able to analyze this relationship from a more objective standpoint.

leorising » emerauxe the way things go in the world ... first of all you need to live in present...

Astro-Seek.com » emerauxe System message: Post has been written by user jerrynna, who already deleted profile on this website:
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so one of you will need the courage to break through this thought process and just give it a chance.

let‘s say you were the same age. there is no guarantee that it would work in the long run either. you can‘t look ahead in any relationship. all you can do is trust, try your best and see what happens.

Astro-Seek.com » jerrynna System message: Post has been written by user emerauxe, who already deleted profile on this website:
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You are so smart, jerrynna, the same outcome could happen at any age.
I think I already may have overwhelmed her with my words to her and I think my intensity somewhat frightened her, but I just may be projecting.

I am smitten with her, and I always make sure that my shirt covers my pants completely so my arousal is not obvious. Lol.

Astro-Seek.com » stigmí System message: Post has been written by user emerauxe, who already deleted profile on this website:
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I don´t want to have any children, I´m okay with that.
She of course worries that I could always change my mind and want them, and where that would leave her.

Astro-Seek.com » leorising System message: Post has been written by user emerauxe, who already deleted profile on this website:
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You are right, leorising. The present is all we have and what we know to base our decisions on. Anything else is mere speculation.

Astro-Seek.com » emerauxe System message: Post has been written by user jerrynna, who already deleted profile on this website:
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LOL

we libras like to be in a relationship. we idealize, we overthink and we love being in love. especially when someone really special comes along. and we make great partners.

let‘s see what will happen. just don‘t get discouraged by the age difference. cover up your crotch or don‘t. and keep us up to date :) I wish you good luck!

Astro-Seek.com » jerrynna System message: Post has been written by user emerauxe, who already deleted profile on this website:
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Thank you for your support and words of wisdom.
I´ll just have to make a joking romantic move on her, something that will spare both of us the awkwardness if it isn´t accepted or feels weird.

Something like this: Is the name of that delicious scent on your skin, Hold me close, and then take her into my arms, or might it be, kiss me gently?

Sometimes you just don´t know for sure until that first kiss.

A man is often put into the awkward situation of not making an advance and being thought of as not interested; or being too aggressive and being thought of as a wolf.

There was a time when I finally kissed a woman and she said to me, " that you finally worked up the guts to do it."

Astro-Seek.com » emerauxe System message: Post has been written by user jerrynna, who already deleted profile on this website:
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<< A man is often put into the awkward situation of not making an advance and being thought of as not interested; or being too aggressive and being thought of a as wolf.>>

yes, that is sadly true. i‘m glad i‘m not a man in regards to this. I can understand the pressure.

I don‘t know, maybe just go with the flow. When the moment feels right, go for a move.

this part is really much easier for a women. if i just kiss a guy and he wouldn‘t like it, I don‘t think that would make me a bad person in his eyes. maybe it would though, I don‘t know. never happened.

i‘ve heard from friends that they loved to be asked „can I kiss you?“ before being kissed for the first time. maybe that‘s a cultural thing but it seems to work here in switzerland.

ancient_astrology » emerauxe <<I also think she is afraid that I will hurt her and make her feel like an old fool.>>


I think that is what may really be going on here. Make sure you reassure her about how attractive she it to you. Don´t spare the words. Elaborate. Even though she looks good to you, she´s at an age where her body is changing and she may have doubts about herself. It also does not help that society in general sends the message-subtle and not so subtle- to woman that they´re done and unattractive once they hit 40. Of course, that´s completely untrue.

Like I said, one of my best relationships was with that woman who was 40 when I was 29. It was of short duration, for various reasons, but as Jerrynna correctly points out, any relationship-no matter the age of the participants-can continue or end at any time.