All I attract are creeps, narcissist, users and abusers

February 6, 2020 at 13:44 (UT/GMT)
(Cancer) Lunargrl90
All I attract are creeps, narcissist, users and abusers
All my life I had to fight, especially when it came to romantic relationships. I´ve never had a normal long term healthy relationship in my 29 years of life.

I either attract men who only want me for sex and entertainmemt or men who are pocessive, controling and abusive. Men used me, got me drunk and sexualy assaulted me. Some men threatening to kill themselves or beat me up if I didn´t have an affair with them. Crazy men with mommy issues, gaslighters, theives, liars. Functioning drug addicts, whores, pimps etc. Men who have a whole wife, children or significant other who demand sexual favors simply because they offer me a ride to work.

If I love them they wont love me but if they love me I´m not in love them. A lot of unrequited love energy. What gives?

I know I´m very loving and nuturing. I make a beautiful girlfriend outside but especially inside. I give a lot for those who I care about. But I´m getting shit in return. Read my chart please, any advice would be great.

Posts in topic

Sort posts:
February 6, 2020 at 15:11
(Scorpio) ancient_astrology
Just so you know, there are A LOT of creeps on astro-seek (I know, because my daughter has an account here and has had some creeps contact her).

Actually there are a lot of good things in your chart. Venus is not in a great place. I want to point out that in whole signs house system she is in the 8th (not the 7th). If she were in the 7th that would actually be a great place for her. However, she´s not in a horrible place. She is alone and not getting help from other planets. Maybe this describes your situation in part.

Mars is in the 6th in Aries. Aries is Mars domicile and that´s good. But this in a day chart, so Mars is the main malefic planet. So in Aries in the 6th suggests low-lifes and sex. It also could suggest violence to in regards to romanic encounter. The fact that Saturn the other malefic is squaring Mars only makes things worse, much worse. On top of that Mars is the chart ruler, so this is definitely a key topic in your life. This does not mean it´s your fault. It does mean you need to focus on it.

As for what you should do, astrology can tell you nothing. However, maybe a biblical passage would be of use here, and I don´t intend to be cruel here: "You lay down with dogs, you get up with fleas." Just be very careful who you associate with. You are a physically very beautiful woman. Your chart indicates you are a very good woman and you have a lot of potential (seriously). You deserve better than these men and you need to be aware of that. Don´t sell yourself short.
February 6, 2020 at 16:04
(Scorpio) ancient_astrology
Let me go on. Your part of fortune, which represents those things that happen to you for no fault of your own, is in the third house and its in the term of Mars, which is not good and Saturn is conjunct. Saturn issues, especially since Saturn is in Capricorn, tends to be issues that you will overcome as you get a little older. They will be those lessons that eventually empower and make you wiser. However, your part of spirit is in a pretty good place, and it represents your will. You need to apply yourself to undo those bad things you are talking about. You will fall into them. If you just let things go their natural way, you will have these kinds of bad experiences. Luckily for you, with discipline, that part of spirit helps you so that you can create a better situation for yourself.
February 6, 2020 at 16:13
(Scorpio) ancient_astrology
Your Lot of Eros is at 9 degrees 48 of Leo conjunct the south node. Also the Lord of the Lot of Eros, the Sun, is opposed by Saturn. So that does indicate problems in the area of romance, but on the other hand, you do have Venus helping you out with a sextile. All of these problems can and will be overcome though in time and through the exercise of your will.
February 6, 2020 at 16:21
(Scorpio) ancient_astrology
You are in a sixth house profection year. So that Mars in the sixth house is particularly activated this year until your next birthday. So be especially vigilant this year about staying away from these types of people. Since Venus profects to your first house, this is a turning point, a time to begin anew your personal approach to romance. That´s a good thing This profection effects your sixth house and first house, which means it could have potentially harmful effects on your physical health, if you don´t make those changes or perhaps some bad event will provoke you to take action to change.. Don´t be paranoid about that...just be especially careful and make the necessary changes. Starting with your next birthday, you will begin a 7th house profection year and that could mean positive things in your relationships, if you make these changes.
February 6, 2020 at 16:41
(Taurus) nutelina
You know what? I did the same, when people don´t value you and only want your money you behave like a bitch. I did that I´m guilty but I learned that it all comes from valuing yourself. Getting to know yourself better. It always surprises me how shallow young people can be but I think it´s just natural. I think people learn from trying limits and seeking bounderies, sometimes you cross them and it´s not good. You learn from mistakes but yes people hurt each other all the time! I wish I had a BS filter made from super smart AI from someone who would know me, or maybe astrology should be experienced to be understood better? :4:

And for me Cancer has always been about giving and nurture, just expect that back from Scorpio or Pisces but men are just hunters, never forget that. They optimize for the number of women while women optmize for the number of houses :4: That is a joke but could be not far from the truth? :63:
February 6, 2020 at 17:51
(Taurus) Astro-Seek.com
System message: Post has been written by user emerauxe, who already deleted profile on this website:
=====
Maybe you are better off without men in your life.

Men aren´t necessary for you to have a happy life.

Not everyone has a horoscope that favors relationships with the opposite sex.

The astrological indicators are an afflicted Sun and Mars for women and an afflicted Moon and Venus for men.

You attract deceptive men with both your Sun and Mars being afflicted by Neptune.

If you still want to persist in trying to have a relationship with a man you will have to exercise the discriminating quality of your Moon in Virgo and be a lot
more intelligent about who you are keeping company with as Ancient astrology has already previously pointed out!
February 6, 2020 at 18:21
(Taurus) Boyan
Then there is that Pluto in 12th house.A position that gives a person that can be a victim of violence or child abuse.With his Scorpio sign it can accumulate a lot of inner rage.Also sex could get complicated because of the identification with former abusive lover or even a parent.And as ruler of 1st in 12th house it can lead to some kind of isolation or shut down.But when resolved it can give great psychotherapists and healers.There is a need to keep away from introverted,troubled past men because they lead to incarceration.
February 6, 2020 at 18:56
(Taurus) Astro-Seek.com
System message: Post has been written by user emerauxe, who already deleted profile on this website:
=====
Try a Taurus man with his Venus in Cancer.

The Taurus Sun can make a grand trine with your other earth planets, and his ruling planet Venus placed in Cancer will make him quite fond of you.
February 6, 2020 at 19:12
(Cancer) Lunargrl90 » ancient_astrology
But i thought mars was in my 5th house
February 6, 2020 at 19:17
(Cancer) Lunargrl90 » ancient_astrology
Yes I hear you with that scripture. I feel this year I have become more diligent in cutting these kinds of men off. I dated an aries for a whole year after one fight I blocked him. He disrespected me, with held and took a portion of my money and gaslighted me. I considered letting it go and moving on even though he never appologized or acknowledge any fault then my intuition kicked in and just said get rid of him. It was not hard to block him, i felt relieved ans powerful when it was over. As im getting older Im getting stronger, wiser. Im ok with being celebate right niw cus im not ever going to give my energy away to someone who wont claim me and give me the same energy back. Im DONE done. But was curious why Ive been battling bad luck in love for the last decade. I hope I attract better ppl.
February 6, 2020 at 19:19
(Scorpio) ancient_astrology » Lunargrl90
I use the Whole Signs House System. So yes,it´s different than Placidus.
February 6, 2020 at 19:20
(Taurus) Astro-Seek.com » Lunargrl90
System message: Post has been written by user emerauxe, who already deleted profile on this website:
=====
In whole signs it is in your 6th house.
Whole signs ignores the degrees and only considers the sign your Mars is in and since your Mars is in Aries and Aries is the sign on your 6th house, your Mars gets placed in the 6th house. Do you understand it now?
February 6, 2020 at 19:53
(Sagittarius) goldenlion32
Usually it seems this way until you figure out how to change your emotional, mental, and spiritual patterns.

1. Family Generational dysfunction in family.

How they coped with emotions, thoughts, and feelings. Did they react in negative ways be using drugs, alcohol, domestic violence, child abuse, sexual abuse, gambling etc.

You have to look back 3 or 4 generations and seen the patterns. Break the chains.

2. Usually in my book some people would see this as judgmental, but really it tells you where a person spends their money, where their focal point is, and their coping methods.

Do they have foreign substances, alcohol, porn, gambling, etc in their presence every day, every week, every month. Are they talking about it all the time.

3. Who are they hanging around? Are they around the same influence enforcing these behaviors and emotional and mental patterns?

Really it is recognizing your own family dysfunction and matching it to those around you.

Then seeking out environment which don´t display these behaviors and patterns and re-learning how to relate to people in a new way. Establishing new behaviors, emotional, and mental patterns.

What am I doing to attract these people through my own thoughts, emotions, and behaviors?

How do they spend their time? Where do they spend their time?

How do they talk and communicate about women and children?

What is their body language telling you?
February 6, 2020 at 19:56
(Cancer) Lunargrl90 » emerauxe
Yes I do ty
February 6, 2020 at 20:07
(Sagittarius) goldenlion32
Bascially your attracting the Cardinal Cross in relationships with the Masculine since you have Saturn in Capricorn, Uranus in Capricorn, Neptune in Capricorn, Mars in Aries, Jupiter in Cancer, and Sun in Cancer.

It´s really not about avoiding them, because you can´t ever get out of your signature here.

It´s about recognizing the shadow side of these archetypes and the light side of these acrchetypes in other people.

For example: Gangster versus Police Officer. Drug dealer versus Doctor. Criminal versus respectful citizen.

There is always duality and polarity. This comes with where you hang out.

You might find a criminal in a jail cell, at shady bars, clubs, partying all the time, selling drugs, might be underground places. Really doesn´t care who they hurt, just that he gets what he desires.

You might find a nice career guy who runs a legit business, follows the legal laws, a lawyer, police officer, civil services, builder, contractor, CE0, Marketing, advertising.

As you can see in both the shadow and light side, you will have the same functions of selling a product, running a business, ethics, morals, or no ethics and morals, protecting others through violence or preventing violence.

A great father or abusive father, One who protects the family vs. one who harms the family.

So we all go through this with our signatures in our personal charts.

Fortunately, it´s getting educated on psychology, body language, and being educated and knowledgeable in what is healthy and unhealthy relationships, role models, mentors, teachers, and weeding out the negative things we´ve picked up from family, peers, and even those who have taught us growing up.

Usually it´s learning to set personal boundaries, learning to stand up for yourself, speaking up for yourself, advocating for yourself, and what you fear facing will keep showing up.

So it´s all in the way you react, respond, communicate, your own body language, thinking, and when you change this stuff, you start attracting healtheir individuals.
February 6, 2020 at 20:40
(Taurus) IIyyaarr13 » ancient_astrology
Doesn´t whole sign presume that most houses start at 00 degrees, 00 minutes and 00 seconds?
Would it make as much sense to have the Ascendant at 15 degrees, 15 arcminutes, and 15 arcseconds? :25: :43: :63: :1:
February 6, 2020 at 22:50
(Taurus) Astro-Seek.com
System message: Post has been written by user RowanBun, who already deleted profile on this website:
=====
I think Ancient_Astrology covered it very well. You were gifted with much emotional, healing, love energy but also with energies that attract people who aren´t in your best interest. I have Venus in the 8th as well all alone, and I´ve always attracted unstable men too. I´ve had to do things in order to survive too, I feel ya on a lot of things, but you can´t let people who aren´t worth your time and energy get you down or siphon your positive energy. Yea we´ve had to wade through a ton of dicks, but I know I´ve met some wonderful people along the way and I´m sure you have to. People that really have your back. Eventually you´ll pull in that guy who treats you as a real person and someone they can build with together. Eventually. I´d like nothing more that for that time to be now myself, but I´ve learned that we get what we are ready for and the universe works on divine timing. Protect your emotions and your body, carry a knife or pepper spray and just know that whatever you want WILL come to you in time. Hope that helps. :80:
February 7, 2020 at 00:18
(Scorpio) ancient_astrology » IIyyaarr13
Whole signs. Where does the Ascendant begin. If the Ascendant begins ANYWHERE in, say, Taurus, the entire first house is Taurus. The second house would be Gemini. Third House Cancer. Fourth house Leo...and so on.
February 7, 2020 at 01:09
(Cancer) Lunargrl90 » goldenlion32
Theyre not all bad. Ive dated every kind of man. The good ones seem to only want sex but they dont show it at firstor maybe im naive. I´m an empath and highly sensitive person while it has its benefits. We do tend to struggle with setting boundaries. Those ones are unrequited loves
February 7, 2020 at 01:13
(Cancer) Lunargrl90 » RowanBun
Thank you :1:
February 7, 2020 at 02:03
(Taurus) Astro-Seek.com
System message: Post has been written by user Davis212, who already deleted profile on this website:
=====
Get this book and read it very carefully from one end to the other:

"Healing Pluto Problems" by Donna Cunningham (http://a.co/14yggQ9)

Also read, Steven Forrest´s "Book on Pluto", but the first book, especially.

You have Pluto retrograde conjunct your Ascendant and opposite your Descendant. That´s the main problem, but you need to read that book so you can understand the underlaying reasons for it (Pluto is your most dominant planet). This is usually some specific pattern of behavior - or pattern of thought - that you yourself (and not any of those men) are creating on a daily basis. And then this pattern "attracts" those "energies" to you.

Also, Pluto is square the Nodes which in Whole Houses, they are on the 4th and the 10th, possibly creating "power struggles" at home (the 4th), or your close relationships (the 4th is also about close relationships), and at work (10th).

Anyway, when Pluto is square the Nodes we have what is called a "Skipped gradient" which basically means some "Karmic debts" from the most recent past lives. See more on that on Steven Forrest´s book.

Also, you have retrograde Saturn in your 3rd (in "Whole Houses") affecting your communication with others and creating very tense and hostile situations with its square to Mars in Aries.

As lovely as you might be - which I am not doubting you are - you also have a very bad temper that tends to trigger suddenly. And you also need to understand that aspect (Mars square Saturn) fully.

Mars is also square to Chiron (basic wounds) possibly indicating two things, any of which (or both) might be manifesting:

1. Hostility from others

2. A tendency to lose your temper and become hostile towards other yourself in a kind of sudden and unexpected way.


So you need to understand those 4 things fully:


1. Pluto conjunct Asc and opposite Desc as the main problem regarding relationships.

2. Mars square Saturn

3. Mars square Chiron

4. Pluto square the Nodes

And read those books. I hope this helps.
February 7, 2020 at 04:23
(Cancer) Lunargrl90 » Davis212
I am very lovely. Im good at controling my anger. I rage in the privacy of my room but mostly I just cry when angry. At work when ppl attack I just smile say nothing and then document a report sending it to HR. Alot of my co workers are hostile towards me, some fear me, some hate me...I get a kick out of it. I don´t do it on purpose but I work in a tough business where you need to be assertive and have a guard up.

I have a resting bitch face and I like my alone time.

But when I love I become more cancerian, just giving loving maternal happy light caring etc. I give it my all. But if crossed like a switch I revert back to my pluto nature.


Thnx for suggesting the book but in my experience dwelling on negativity does way more harm than good for me. I read some pages and I´m cringing. I like being pluto dominant, I like my chart, i just dont like attracting these men.
February 7, 2020 at 12:17
(Leo) pixel » Lunargrl90
Your topic is very interesting. I understand you quite well, because I have about the same problems both in private and at work or business.

I think it is related to the manner we are with other (not all poeple are able to take natural kindness as a quality but most look at this trait as a weakness... and they want to take advantage of it : we are humans but we are mammals too living in our own jungle !).

For being accepted or hated (at first sight :4:) that´s related to your ascendant.

The only way I found to protect myself (however, I don´t really succeed), is by taking distance from other, and let only few poeple approach me. The same for men : too much abusers and selfish.

Maybe things in childhood we keep it with us and bring it through our relationships unconsciously ?

:17:
February 7, 2020 at 15:45
(Sagittarius) Sus
What about venus square moon?
Sometimes we don´t value ourselves. We can´t attract valuable people if we don´t value ourselves either


Current Planets, Astrology Transits, Chart of this moment
Current planets
Planetary positions
Show chart »
Lunar calendar 2022
Moon calendar
Moon in Leo Leo
Show calendar »