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Crazy About This Woman-There´s a catch
January 26, 2020 at 18:52 (UT/GMT)

Crazy About This Woman-There´s a catch
So I´m crazy about this woman. I´ve included her chart, but what I really need is some advice that´s not entirely astrological.
Anyway I sometimes volunteer at this homeless shelter here once a week. There´s a woman there who volunteers on the same day I do. We´ve been working there for a couple of months now. We get along, enjoy the same music and have similar tastes about many things. We´ve started meeting outside of our volunteer work. We´ve gone a couple of times to eat and a few times down to Half Moon Bay to walk on the beach. I´ve fallen madly in love with her.
Here´s the thing: she´s a lesbian.
Don´t get me wrong. I´m not one of those het men who dreams of converting a lesbian woman. All of this just happened. I didn´t plan on it. Now I don´t know what to do.
So dear forum members, give me your best advice. What should I do? She doesn´t know how I feel. I´m afraid if I tell her, it might alienate her and she won´t have anything to do with me. I value her friendship and I would hate that. On the other hand, I feel like I am living a lie if I don´t tell her. What would you do?
Anyway I sometimes volunteer at this homeless shelter here once a week. There´s a woman there who volunteers on the same day I do. We´ve been working there for a couple of months now. We get along, enjoy the same music and have similar tastes about many things. We´ve started meeting outside of our volunteer work. We´ve gone a couple of times to eat and a few times down to Half Moon Bay to walk on the beach. I´ve fallen madly in love with her.
Here´s the thing: she´s a lesbian.
Don´t get me wrong. I´m not one of those het men who dreams of converting a lesbian woman. All of this just happened. I didn´t plan on it. Now I don´t know what to do.
So dear forum members, give me your best advice. What should I do? She doesn´t know how I feel. I´m afraid if I tell her, it might alienate her and she won´t have anything to do with me. I value her friendship and I would hate that. On the other hand, I feel like I am living a lie if I don´t tell her. What would you do?


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January 26, 2020 at 18:58


January 26, 2020 at 19:02


January 26, 2020 at 19:03

When I was in university I had a close lesbian friend. We even had sex together. Her name was Sharon. She told me one time that she could have sex with a man but she couldn´t fall in love with him.
So I´m not looking for advice that may or may not be related to astrology.

January 26, 2020 at 19:06


January 26, 2020 at 19:11

Maybe friendship is cool too. See where it goes. She will notice. But if nothing happens... That´s a tough one. I knew those Taurus girls...


Anyway, you can always call you know who!


January 26, 2020 at 19:16

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I thought I was your girlfriend


January 26, 2020 at 19:22

Soooo, you have to ask yourself, what are your intentions, thats all.


January 26, 2020 at 19:27

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Are you sure she’s a lesbian, and not bisexual? When you’re a lesbian, you’re a lesbian. Lesbians don’t have sex with men unless they are bicurious. Maybe she’s curious for you? I would sit down with her and have a talk about this.

January 26, 2020 at 19:30

In your situation it´s different because your a mail. And obviously, you´ve had a previous situation with someone who might have been bi-sexual.
When it comes to these gender identity issues, there usually sorting this stuff out themselves. Which pretty much I´ve seen documentaries where they swear they are transgender, gay, or lesbian and find out later they´re not.
I would just be honest I guess about the topic. All you can do is talk about it. Really she should already be clear in conversation about who she talks about. lol I know online when they´re all around me, there quite blatant, I´m gay, I´m lesbian, I´m bi-sexual, I´m transgender. They get quite sensitive about making in clear who they are.
If you know definitely she´s pretty much set on the lesbian lifestyle, you pretty much are wasting your time. Although, your emotions, thoughts, and feelings are real, it´s not different then the way you feel about a straight person with love or bonding. So pretty much it´s not any different then a women saying we´re just friends and keeping you in the friend zone. So it´s easier to just understand she´s into you, or she´s not. Bottomline is it works or doesn´t work.

January 26, 2020 at 20:06



January 26, 2020 at 20:15

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I would be honest and talk to her. Totally and completely without strings or trying to hide any details. However from my perspective I wouldn´t continue to feed into the sexual nature of such a love. Love is love regardless of the physical filters we put on it. If you´re in love with her and it´s real love then it will last forever, regardless of the nature of the physical aspect of your relationship.
That being said, sexuality like all things is infinite with all kinds of permutations. She may have similar feelings as you do, with/without any physical aspect with it.
So this is my question: If you are in love with her, and it turns out she feels the same but does not want a sexual aspect to the relationship, will you still be "in love" with her? Would you be able to sustain a relationship together with each other without a physical sexual component? And if you can, would this relationship help yall to grow as a unit and as individuals?


January 26, 2020 at 20:30

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Composite Pluto (and Uranus) MC

I´m afraid there is no escape form this connection until it gets you to best version of yourself and this entire composite sure has that potential.
Don´t even try to escape my friend

Since this relation is above classical form of relation, my advice is: do not try to put it in any form like "we are this" or "we are that".
It acctually doesn´t matter much how would you call her "friend" "girl friend", "colegue"...only thing important here is to stay close and long as it needed and to be together as much as you desire and can....
Other than Sun-Venu-Mercury 1st and 2ndH that indicate strong freinedsip with a pinch of romance and great communication, composite NN-AC, 1stH Jupiter are way above forms
Composite Saturn - Chiron IC is indicating your common vurnability and feel of responsibility for elders and weak ones and that noble common energy can save many...

January 26, 2020 at 20:44

If you become a lesbian I might consider it. :)


January 26, 2020 at 20:50

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Just don´t do anything radical like becoming female



January 27, 2020 at 00:15


January 27, 2020 at 00:24

Not to mention Neptune.


January 27, 2020 at 00:43


January 27, 2020 at 01:02

January 27, 2020 at 01:06


January 27, 2020 at 01:16


January 27, 2020 at 03:27

Myself and the Aquarian’s I have know are big on friendship and open communication.
Unrequited love is always a heartache.
I certainly hope You at least get a good friend out of this.
Connecting with people is one of the best treasures in life.


January 27, 2020 at 07:29

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It´s often nice and sad regardless of your decision. Eventually, you need to find a way to tell her your feelings, and you never know, maybe she is also confused about her own feelings. In the worst case, you can stay friends as you´re now, which is very valuable. You will suffer less pain to know than keeping it unknown. Her natal chart tells interesting emotional combination. No wonder.

January 27, 2020 at 16:01

Did you know she was a lesbian before you started liking her?
That piece of info is critical to me
There´s something to be said for wanting what we can´t have
It´s a thing for some people, and they do it for a variety of reasons...
The bittersweet/romantic aspect of it... The "sweet" suffering...Some are afraid of actually getting what they want and messing it up, so they pursue something unattainable...etc...
Maybe you should examine your motivations regarding this entire matter before you proceed with a course of action.
I´m not saying I´m right, these are just my thoughts.


January 27, 2020 at 16:46

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Your overthinking it way to much! Let go let it evolve! Having a companion at all in this upside down world is better then being alone. Why complicate it with feelings.... Lol seriously just let the lovely feeling last as long as possible. No matter the outcome trust that whatever happens was meant for your higher good. Maybe see the lesson in just enjoying something without it needing to be anything else.

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