PLEASE LOOK AT THIS SYNASTRY (pretty please) - Discussions, questions

Astro-Seek.com System message: Post has been written by user kaayli, who already deleted profile on this website:
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Venus-Mercury trigon,thinking of one another with love, being allied throught thoughts of love.

Venus-Mars too long orb, to reach.(Had kept in the relationship)

Venus-Pluto square, can giv voluptuousness,is good but can lead to alienation.

Venus-Jupiter doesn´t reach either, it´s also squared.(Jupiter is expanding)

Sun-Sun trigon, similary of disposition.

Venus-MC square, spititual conflicts.

Venus-Mercury square, amatory thoughts going astray, taking love too easily.

Sun-MC trigon, Joint aims in life, a relationship combining body and soul.

Saturn´s trine Venus / ASC/ Jupiter is good, but not to Uranus, can giv separation later.

Astro-Seek.com System message: Post has been written by user Davis212, who already deleted profile on this website:
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Do you want an advice from someone who has seen/analyzed dozens of synastries, and who has engaged in quite a few "distant relationships/friendships"?

Totally forget about synastries, and concentrate instead (in your particular case) in what is REAL and practical:

1. How do you two communicate, and especially, how do you two communicate when you heavily disagree on something? What´s your particular "style" of solving disagreements/conflicts? Do you have similar approaches to that? How does it differ, if they do?

2. Do you two have similar philosophical/moral beliefs? Do you two have similar life interests? I am not referring here to similar likings like food, movies, etc. I am referring to life beliefs such as mysticism, astrology, spirituality, etc. Without similar beliefs on that, eventually it becomes impossible to communicate; and you two (or one of you) will feel the urge to communicate with others with whom you share the same beliefs.

3. Do you reach out to each other in a similar way/intensity, or is the reaching-out unbalanced?

4. Talk as much as you can on the phone and by camera, and send as many photos and videos of each other as you can.

5. Do engage in deep conversations (not just superficial stuff) where disagreements might arise, and become fully aware of the particular way that EACH one of you handle it. Are there any "silent treatments"? Is there any hypersensitivity? Is it easy for BOTH of you to say, "I am sorry" and to change non-optimum behavior?

6. Throughly analyze each chart separately to understand the basic personality makeup of each one independently; this is a MUST DO.

7. Do meet if the above 6 steps "pass the test", and just "go with the flow" without any expectations whatsoever. Just "surrender" to the "Universe".


The above 6 steps are practical, logical, and delusion-free.

Forget, forget, forget (did I say forget? Haha) about synastries. The Western way of doing them is incredibly flawed and has so many holes in it. Don´t waste your time on them.

Tiana » kaayli Hello, thank you for your analysis! I was wondering if you could explain more in depth about the venus-mercury square and the amatory thoughts going astray? Who is having these thoughts me or him and is it thoughts about other people or eachother?? I believe I’m the venus and he’s the mercury in this square aspect. Any thoughts would be helpful and again thank you!

Tiana » Davis212 Haha, I know you shouldn’t use synastry to analyze a relationship, but it’s always interesting. As far as the steps you have listed we have both realized what our strengths are and where we need to improve. I think it mostly has to do with my sensitivity and the way I communicate and he has his habits that bother me. We have talked about everything under the sun, spirituality, family, what we want to do in the future, and things like that, and we are on the same page about most things. We text everyday, send pictures, video chat and all that. I think that we do have good chance of happily ever after, despite a few things but every relationship has bumps and hurdles. Thank you for your advice!!

Astro-Seek.com » Tiana System message: Post has been written by user Davis212, who already deleted profile on this website:
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"Haha, I know you shouldn’t use synastry to analyze a relationship, but it’s always interesting."


Oh yes, indeed it is, haha!


"As far as the steps you have listed we have both realized what our strengths are and where we need to improve."


I think that it is great that you two have, :-)


"I think it mostly has to do with my sensitivity and the way I communicate and he has his habits that bother me."


Regarding that (your sensitivity), you must watch for a few placements/aspects in your chart that contributes to that:


1.You have debilitated Saturn (he gets debilitated in Aries) conjunct Mercury. Research that aspect thoroughly, and decide for yourself the descriptions that apply to you; especially a "fear" of being rejected in your communication and not being understood.


2.Mercury in Aries (a quick tongue, haha, all by itself) conjunct Mars also in Aries. Mars is enemy of Mercury (even though Mercury feels "neutral" about Mars), and that aspect can create a very sensitive person possibly inclined towards sudden anger bursts that could or could not be manifested in a hostile way.


3.Your Moon (feelings/emotions) is conjunct Pluto (intensity and even obsessive thinking). So what we end up with is with a very deep intensity of feeling, both the good ones and the no-so-good ones, :-).


The fact that you are aware of your tendency(ies), makes it sooo much easier to be able to deal with it effectively. Just meditate, locate what are the "triggers", and trace them down to some specific situation(s)/event(s) in your past. He can help you with that as he has Pluto conjunct his Mercury - a very deep-probing mind, great for psychology (but also great for recognizing and pushing the buttons of others, haha).


He also has his Moon conjunct his Mars (an 8°7´ orb). So he is also prone to anger bursts to some degree or another. You also have your Moon trine your Mars, which can also manifest like that.


And his Moon in Libra is opposite your Mercury, Mars and Saturn in Aries. That could represent a continuous/frequent communication issue between you two. Quite possibly he feels "misjudged" by you. That, regardless of whether or not he is right about it. Especially his Moon opposite your Aries Mars can bring about a communication that feels sort of tense; as if it is easy that buttons get pushed.


The way to handle it is (but it needs to be done in person) to sit in two chairs, facing each other about 12-15 inches apart. Put your hands resting on your lap, sit comfortably and just look at each other in the eyes. Don´t think about anything, don´t force anything, don´t talk, don´t do anything but be there comfortably looking at each other. You two will start to have all kinds of reactions such as watery eyes, twitches in the muscles, an urge to move or to scratch your hair/body, impatience, nervousness, awkwardness, etc, etc. By all means, move if you need to, but then continue with the process for at least 30 minutes each day until you can just be there comfortably looking at each other without doing anything or thinking about anything.


If you do this for at least 2 weeks, each day, I guarantee you that your communication with each other would improve in ways you never imagined possible. The above is a tested method, and I helped dozens of couples just with that one process.


"We have talked about everything under the sun, spirituality, family, what we want to do in the future, and things like that, and we are on the same page about most things."


That´s great! Good for you both! :-).


"We text everyday, send pictures, video chat and all that."


It feels really good, doesn´t it? :-).


I had a similar dynamic with a friend of mine; we had it for almost 70 consecutive days, 6-8 hours (and even more) a day, 7 days a week. We talked about everything and anything under the Sun. But our karmic past was a lot stronger than any of us. At the end, we couldn´t even talk; it just got too tense for both of us.


"I think that we do have good chance of happily ever after, despite a few things but every relationship has bumps and hurdles."


I really think you do, :-). Just make sure that you never ever keep things to yourself, and never ever leave a conflict/disagreement unresolved, but always keep communicating with each other in gentle, mature, and responsible ways (without using blame and reproach) until you arrive at an understanding.


"Thank you for your advice!!"


Always my pleasure, :-).

Astro-Seek.com » Davis212 System message: Post has been written by user Davis212, who already deleted profile on this website:
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I forgot to mention a very curious detail; you both have Uranus conjunct Venus in your respective birth charts. Uranus rules the internet, electronic communications, etc. So with this aspect one can be inclined towards non-conventional type of relationships such as "Distant relationships" or relationships started online and kept online for a reasonable amount of time. I have that same aspect myself and I have the same inclinations.


Also, his Venus is in Sagittarius and yours in Aquarius. So the "Distant to Venus" Vedic factor is great, as he just needs to move one sign forward to reach your Venus. Also his Moon in Libra just need to move one sign to reach yours in Sagittarius. Both factors helps in him being capable to "get you", to "See you".


Also, Aquarius and Sagittarius Venus are both of them very free and independent kind of Venus. And you both having the very free and independent Uranus/Venus besides that type of Venus, makes it ideal in terms of having a very similar "romantic style".


This could really become a very fulfilling relationships if you two really work at it.

Astro-Seek.com » Tiana System message: Post has been written by user kaayli, who already deleted profile on this website:
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Mercury is thinking of Venus´ love. You can also see it at midpoints.

https://cafeastrology.com/synastry/…