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Why has this specific person affected me this way?
September 17, 2023 at 01:14 (UT/GMT)

Why has this specific person affected me this way?
I have posted about this person before, and whilst I thank everyone for their responses at the time (i did find them helpful), I didn´t really receive the astrological perspective I was hoping for.
As a student of astrology, I am curious to understand how and why this man has affected me the way he has. It is my first experience feeling this level soulful loss and yearning for someone.
I don´t know his TOB, but I know mine is accurate 100%.
I see his SN on my Saturn.
With Pluto in my 7th house, this is generational so all men in his age group will have their pluto in my 7th squaring my Venus, and Uranus opposing my Moon. I have dated other men in this age group and none have affected me like him.
What am I missing here?
I really have to re-iterate that I have not felt this way about anyone before, so I´m not this way with every man I meet.
I think if I can try and understand why I´m affected so deeply, it can help me move on because I´m trying everything I can and nothing is working.
Astrology has proven itself to me many times so I hope someone can help me delineate this connection to see why I´m stuck to him
As a student of astrology, I am curious to understand how and why this man has affected me the way he has. It is my first experience feeling this level soulful loss and yearning for someone.
I don´t know his TOB, but I know mine is accurate 100%.
I see his SN on my Saturn.
With Pluto in my 7th house, this is generational so all men in his age group will have their pluto in my 7th squaring my Venus, and Uranus opposing my Moon. I have dated other men in this age group and none have affected me like him.
What am I missing here?
I really have to re-iterate that I have not felt this way about anyone before, so I´m not this way with every man I meet.
I think if I can try and understand why I´m affected so deeply, it can help me move on because I´m trying everything I can and nothing is working.
Astrology has proven itself to me many times so I hope someone can help me delineate this connection to see why I´m stuck to him


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September 17, 2023 at 08:30


September 17, 2023 at 08:34

I thought the Moon-NN conjunction might play a part but since i dont know his TOB, I´m not sure how tight or wide the orb is.
Unfortunately, he didn´t stick around long enough to be a catalyst for anything other than deep emotional pain for me.
Would you know how a Cap Moon would feel in this conjunction?
Since the node would absorb the energy, would he have felt emotionally drained eventually?

September 17, 2023 at 08:56


September 17, 2023 at 09:12

Yes, absolutely, and I´m hoping this post could help me in that journey atleast from astrological perspective ♥️
Thankyou I´m going to see what information I can find about Moon-NN.. In fact in my personal experience with synastries, the nodes have never figured prominently.. this is my first conscious connection of Moon-NN.

September 17, 2023 at 09:19
ChironianSun
Hi limerence 
Venus-Mars conjunction, Mars-Sun conjunction, Mars-Pluto square... For the sexual attraction/tension (the ´obsession´ could be that Mars-Pluto ¿?).
In my experience, sexuality and/or attraction can work like this. We feel this uncontrollable attraction to the other person because we ´need´ them. The purpose is to realise what we need to learn/heal, so if you are ´attached´ in that way to that person, then you can see it. But once you have learnt the lesson, you can stop feeling that.
Aside of his Pluto on your 7th (and maybe we should add Saturn and Jupiter as well), that this is a personal lesson for you, I am observing this group:
Saturn-South Node conjunction
/opposite/
Chiron-North Node conjunction
Saturn (among other things) as the ´teacher´ and the ´karma stuffs´, nodes as past/future (what to leave, where to go), Chiron as the wounded healer... And the opposition as what it is necessary to balance. So yes... I´d take this as one of the aspects related to your question.

Venus-Mars conjunction, Mars-Sun conjunction, Mars-Pluto square... For the sexual attraction/tension (the ´obsession´ could be that Mars-Pluto ¿?).
In my experience, sexuality and/or attraction can work like this. We feel this uncontrollable attraction to the other person because we ´need´ them. The purpose is to realise what we need to learn/heal, so if you are ´attached´ in that way to that person, then you can see it. But once you have learnt the lesson, you can stop feeling that.
Aside of his Pluto on your 7th (and maybe we should add Saturn and Jupiter as well), that this is a personal lesson for you, I am observing this group:
Saturn-South Node conjunction
/opposite/
Chiron-North Node conjunction
Saturn (among other things) as the ´teacher´ and the ´karma stuffs´, nodes as past/future (what to leave, where to go), Chiron as the wounded healer... And the opposition as what it is necessary to balance. So yes... I´d take this as one of the aspects related to your question.


September 17, 2023 at 09:30


September 17, 2023 at 09:41

Thank you for spending so much time on me and my issue with this man xx
Do you think the attraction would have went both ways with his Mars on my Sun, and the Mars/Pluto square (as it is a double whammy aspect)?
"Saturn-South Node conjunction
/opposite/
Chiron-North Node conjunction
Saturn (among other things) as the ´teacher´ and the ´karma stuffs´, nodes as past/future (what to leave, where to go), Chiron as the wounded healer... And the opposition as what it is necessary to balance. So yes... I´d take this as one of the aspects related to your question."
My understanding was that Saturn and South Node was a good conjunction to have, although not without its challenges, but overall a beneficial one.
Chiron and NN.. that´s another aspect I´ve not experienced in synastry so maybe this could help me understand it better. I will look into it

September 18, 2023 at 04:42

September 18, 2023 at 10:24
ChironianSun
» limerence.
It´s a pleasure, limerence. Thank you for your words and for being open to read 🦋✨
I can´t assure that he also felt the attraction but as anybody else, I can guess. And the fact that he was apparently so comfortable and suddenly dissapeared because a personal feeling/thought/situation, makes me this about it as a possibility. I think that aspects are felt in both senses, but maybe one of them are not really aware of what is going on exactly. So one could say "the other person just doesn´t feel it", when maybe the situation is happening in some of the layers of the unconscious.
Whatever it is, I must say for "your good", that this question focus your energy on him, when it should be focused on you. I understand it because it´s the most normal thing: the mind tries to find answers, justifications, etc. But the best answer (in the long term) you can take now is the one that focus the energy on you and your process.
With the time you´ll see that if he felt the same or not... It´s the same. Because the important thing was to triggered you, to see this specifical thing you have to heal in yourself.
As for the aspects... For me it´s all "good" 🦋 It´s whatever perspective you decide to take. I like Saturn, it´s one of the most important planets in my chart so I have a special affection for it and I would never say it´s "bad". But we tend to confuse "good" with "easy", "bad" with "hard" and "painful". And this is the point of view.
Now you can be the victim and feel depressed. Or you can feel the unbearable pain and still be aware of it, observe it, observe what thoughts come up and analyse them, to heal them.
And I know what I´m really asking you here, because I went through it myself. I can´t re-feel the sensation now as I write this, but I do remember that it felt like death. It was more than my mind was able to comprehend.... It was one of the situations where I probably experienced the so-called "death of the mind/ego".
You can hate me for this and believe me I will understand you and I won´t get " mad" about it .... But in the long term and if you work on this, you will discover that this situation was the best for you. I think you are able to do the inner work to overcome this 💛🦋
I think we would tend to think that your Saturn would limit him in some way, more so because of the opposition to his NN and your Chiron could represent some kind of wound. It would be easy to take the perspective that you somehow limited him and hurt him even on a subconscious level that he may not really understand or be aware of.
BUT, a synastry is about TWO people and I think the aspects work on both sides.... And also, it´s about YOU. What happened, happened. Now we have to look at what we have in this present. So, his South Node might have brought you issues from the past that your Saturn needs to work on, to build responsibly (someday you´ll want to go the way of Uranus, right?) and his North Node might have tried to help guide your healing. So now you need to balance both situations.
To look at the past to let it go, to heal those wounds to reorient your life to where you want to go and to be able to build it your way.
🌻🦋🌞✨
I can´t assure that he also felt the attraction but as anybody else, I can guess. And the fact that he was apparently so comfortable and suddenly dissapeared because a personal feeling/thought/situation, makes me this about it as a possibility. I think that aspects are felt in both senses, but maybe one of them are not really aware of what is going on exactly. So one could say "the other person just doesn´t feel it", when maybe the situation is happening in some of the layers of the unconscious.
Whatever it is, I must say for "your good", that this question focus your energy on him, when it should be focused on you. I understand it because it´s the most normal thing: the mind tries to find answers, justifications, etc. But the best answer (in the long term) you can take now is the one that focus the energy on you and your process.
With the time you´ll see that if he felt the same or not... It´s the same. Because the important thing was to triggered you, to see this specifical thing you have to heal in yourself.
As for the aspects... For me it´s all "good" 🦋 It´s whatever perspective you decide to take. I like Saturn, it´s one of the most important planets in my chart so I have a special affection for it and I would never say it´s "bad". But we tend to confuse "good" with "easy", "bad" with "hard" and "painful". And this is the point of view.
Now you can be the victim and feel depressed. Or you can feel the unbearable pain and still be aware of it, observe it, observe what thoughts come up and analyse them, to heal them.
And I know what I´m really asking you here, because I went through it myself. I can´t re-feel the sensation now as I write this, but I do remember that it felt like death. It was more than my mind was able to comprehend.... It was one of the situations where I probably experienced the so-called "death of the mind/ego".
You can hate me for this and believe me I will understand you and I won´t get " mad" about it .... But in the long term and if you work on this, you will discover that this situation was the best for you. I think you are able to do the inner work to overcome this 💛🦋
I think we would tend to think that your Saturn would limit him in some way, more so because of the opposition to his NN and your Chiron could represent some kind of wound. It would be easy to take the perspective that you somehow limited him and hurt him even on a subconscious level that he may not really understand or be aware of.
BUT, a synastry is about TWO people and I think the aspects work on both sides.... And also, it´s about YOU. What happened, happened. Now we have to look at what we have in this present. So, his South Node might have brought you issues from the past that your Saturn needs to work on, to build responsibly (someday you´ll want to go the way of Uranus, right?) and his North Node might have tried to help guide your healing. So now you need to balance both situations.
To look at the past to let it go, to heal those wounds to reorient your life to where you want to go and to be able to build it your way.
🌻🦋🌞✨

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