Is there anyone who wants to be in a relationship with someone like me? - Discussions, questions

Janko33 Your success is behind your fear. Be yourself,patience,love is always behind the corner you never expect.

Eros Arcano You show too much empathy and too much willingness to support and advise them. When you do this they begin to see you as a confidant, as a friend who understands them and provides them comfort.

You become an always available source of resources, and that definitively blocks the sexual tension that would be necessary to generate falling in love. They like your sensitivity, but when you give them too much of this, they begin to value it less and less because you no longer represent a challenge to them.

Solution: Learn to manage your resources, never put all your eggs in one basket because, as I said, if you give all your time and attention to the woman you like, you will soon lose value to her (law of supply and demand ).

You are an empathetic guy and you can´t suddenly play cold with her because that´s not who you are. But what you can do is divide your eggs into more baskets, this way you will stay busy and not always be available to just one woman (your attention will be valued higher), and you will also expand your radius of influence: they will know that they have competition and also They will try hard to please you.

Suppose that even so, the one you like the most rejects you; At least you will not be left completely alone and without options with the courage of having given yourself body and soul for nothing.

And finally, bad advice because I understand that our cultural differences may be incompatible here: Lose a little respect for the one you like the most; From time to time tell her a compliment or show her with a mischievous look that you are not as harmless as she thinks. Women want your attention, your protection and your shelter, but they also need to feel desired. You don´t have to be an exaggerated oaf, but you do have to honestly show that you are not his stuffed little brother but rather a man with instincts.

Metaterrestrial I think you should actively pursue relationships where the other person has good synastry with your birth chart.

The good news is that you are young and have plenty of time to meet different women with many different birth charts.

I have found that sign compatibility (and especially "element" compatibility) is a pretty good indicator of romantic compatibility with the opposite gender.

If you can, do you think you can try to find out the birth charts of women you are interested in? Maybe it´s worth waiting to pursue a relationship with people who have good synastry with your own chart.

To make things concise, my initial thoughts/advice revolves around the following points:

- You have your sun in Capricorn, so look for women who have their sun in (ideally) an earth sign, or (secondarily) a water sign, since there will at least be some sort of "baseline" sympathy or compatibility.

- That being said, I have found that emotional compatibility is fairly important too, and that Moon sign compatibility is a good predictor of this. Your moon is in Aquarius, so maybe look for people with their Moon in any Air sign of Fire sign.

- In terms of initial attraction: look for opposite Sun Sign/Rising Sign combinations.

Most of the time, it´s hard to know someone´s rising sign. But if you can figure it out, there are some things you can check for with that:

- Women with their Sun in Virgo will probably find your Pisces
Rising Sign particularly attractive (and because your Sun is in
Capricorn, you might find women with their Rising Sign in Cancer
to be particularly attractive).

- People sometimes say that Venus/Mars aspects influence this (but
personally I think that this indicates sexual compatibility when
people are already in a long-term relationship)

I´m guessing that you are probably already familiar with a lot of this information, since this isn´t all that different from standard advice regarding synastry.

People will often also recommend looking at aspects between each person´s Mercury placement for things like communication style, etc.


In your opinion, what do yo feel like happens when you try to pursue relationships with women that you are interested in?

Have you already tried some of these things? And if so, I´m curious to hear your thoughts on whether or not they seem to work for you.

I´m not an expert or a professional astrologer by any means, but I think that these are accurate observations that I have noticed among myself, my own relationships, and the relationships of people that I have witnessed personally.

Maziyar » Metaterrestrial Thank you for the tips you mentioned About the elements, yes, they are always true, but my problem is in the initial connection Thank you for your attention

Maziyar » Eros Arcano I enjoyed Thank you, the points you said were very interesting and new to me

Eros Arcano » Maziyar Keep it safe, it´s the best advice I´ve ever given anyone here. It is astrology, but also experience.

astral_travel Hi Mazi,

Okay, so you´re the brother figure, why not go for incest with every girl ? I´m not joking, go for it ;)

Iceblu333 Looking at your chart, you should continue towards your studies and Education...

I believe, You will find your partner in your field of profession/work.

So, don´t worry about being lonely/ girls until you begin your career. Which again will probably be where you find your partner.

astral_travel » Iceblu333 I think there´s also a good chance to meet her at a show, like music show, or at some group of common interests.

Iceblu333 » astral_travel No, it will possibly be at Work...

Possibly a Work Outing or Get together;Fun Event at work.

astral_travel » Iceblu333 Possible as well, fun event at work sounds good.

But you gotta take into consideration the placement of his venus which conjunct neptune in aquarius.

Iceblu333 » astral_travel Venus is his 8th lord. Not his 7th lord.

Mercury is his 7th lord, in the 10th house.

My only concern is that his mercury is Retrograde.

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But I´m not a professional so, enlighten me

astral_travel » Iceblu333 The placement of venus, as the feminine lover, can show as well the likely possibility in which the person has most chances to meet it/her.

Iceblu333 » astral_travel Does that Apply to your own personal Chart as well?

astral_travel » Iceblu333 Absolutely.

Iceblu333 » astral_travel Where did you meet your partner and how does it apply; in regards to Taurus.

Iceblu333 » astral_travel Being that your Natal Venus is in Taurus in the 7th house.

astral_travel » Iceblu333 Well, I´m single,
But the aspects I have to my venus describe the kind of women I like - a religious background, that was rebellioned upon, but the faith element remained, I also like tom boys women (a girl that is like a boy), I like sensuality, sex is important aspect for me, I like communication that is physical, and equality (7th house), I like the challenge.

Iceblu333 » astral_travel So, basically, you cannot derive a conclusion from your own Chart...

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Regardless, I believe all aspects are important... but I value the 7th lord and its house over planet Venus in regards to a personal chart and a person´s ability to get a partner

astral_travel » Iceblu333 What do you mean by ´cannot derive a conclusion´ ?

Iceblu333 » astral_travel you cannot derive a conclusion FROM YOUR OWN CHART...

BEING THAT YOU ARE CURRENTLY SINGLE...

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astral_travel » Iceblu333 Hehe...why do I have to be married or constantly in relationship to know what suits me ? I´ve been with many women, I know what I like, where is the contradiction ? If there is one

Iceblu333 » astral_travel This will be my last post for a few hours...

This entire conversation was about "where" to meet a "spouse or partner" based on a person´s chart...

Being that your are single and not in a long-term relationship in my opinion means that whatever you are doing is considered short term Flings...

Short term Flings are ruled by a different sign and house...

Relationships and Marriage are ruled by the 7th lord And House.

Not Just Venus By itself... other attributes go into a relationship reading...

But that was my entire point.

Goodbye.

astral_travel » Iceblu333 And if you wanna get specific,

The 7th doesn´t have to be your lover, it´s about all people who you find as equal - whether you like them or not.

Besides, what´s that about ? You either admire the person (at first) and then argue ? It´s like an instability, take it however you want

ChironianSun Hi Mazi,

From an astrological perspective, I would point to your intercepted signs Aries and Libra, the axis of relationships. Note that Mars, the planet of assertiveness, action and sexuality is also intercepted.

I understand that you enjoy reading books so if that´s the case, I certainly recommend this one: "Your Hidden Powers Intercepted Signs And Retrograde Planets" by Joanne Wickenburg.

If you have not correctly developed what this axis and Mars represent, I think you have an "astrological starting point" to work on to improve your relationships.

Based on what you explain and without a deeper context, I suspect (suspect) that you are living the "typical issue" that people often experience with their intercepted houses... But it´s difficult to know it and to relate it with your question just with little information, so I´m just saying this in case of...