Why can’t I stop thinking about him??

July 18, 2021 at 00:57 (UT/GMT)
(Pisces) jambuck
Why can’t I stop thinking about him??
Quick backstory: we’ve known each other for years in a professional capacity. There’s a 10 year age gap. He moved away and we haven’t spoken in years, randomly Last year he reached out to hang out and the momentum has been different ever sense. He began flirting, being super suggestive…but having 10 years on him I’m not stupid and know he’s just messing around/lookin for a challenge. We both know the age difference doesn’t make things realistic, but have a mutual attraction to the other, acknowledged it and both agreed it’s something we don’t understand but it’s there. We haven’t spoken in a few months now (both have relationships) However, I literally cannot stop thinking about him. I feel absolutely ridiculous. Can anyone give ANY insight to this? Why can I not shake these thoughts, and is it totally one sided on my part?
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July 18, 2021 at 03:44
(Scorpio) OctoberScorpio
8th house overlays. his Sun and Mars fall in your 8th. . . .
July 18, 2021 at 04:39
(Taurus) s81
Well, a couple of things of course, not only the synastry, you should check your own transits and progressions to check your own state, may be you are more prone to something like this in this special moment. By the synastry itself, I think his Neptune (illusions) on your 5th cusp (lovers) is doing his work hah. But those (still somewhat) opposing lunar nodes are not good at all IMHO.
July 18, 2021 at 04:41
(Pisces) jambuck » OctoberScorpio
So it’s all just me then 😵‍💫 how embarrassing lol
July 18, 2021 at 04:46
(Pisces) jambuck » s81
Good idea. I have tried looking there for me but apparently I need to dive deeper. It has made me rethink my entire 10 year relationship. Obv daydreaming about him, but then just what I could be missing out on with a different type of love.
Now I definitely feel crazy that it’s all me 🥴
July 18, 2021 at 04:51
(Scorpio) OctoberScorpio » jambuck
no both of you! Your Sun also falls in his 8th. just with mars there I can only imagine what it´s doing to the sexual tension :20:

Why you worried ?? many couples have age difference and make it work.
July 18, 2021 at 04:56
(Taurus) s81 » jambuck
Well, you know, life present challenges all the time, just to let us play our cards the way we want. May be this guy is just the trigger to select again your current partner in a more deep way, or may be is the alarm that show you your current partner is not the right one. You can check the current transits for your composite chart with your current partner (can´t tell if you can do it here), but you can do it by hand or even looking for professional advice for that. It might be the case the couple is passing through hard transits now.
July 18, 2021 at 05:04
(Pisces) jambuck » OctoberScorpio
The sexual tension is the most intense pull I’ve ever felt. He feels it too, and his directness makes it even more intense and leaves my jaw on the floor lol. But we’ve obviously never acted on it. Thankfully he lives 3 hrs away and we rarely see each other. But with the other opposing aspects that scares me a little. At the same time always wondering “what if” for the rest of my life. 🙄
July 18, 2021 at 05:22
(Scorpio) OctoberScorpio » jambuck
I think s81 made good points. I´d look into the composite not just synastry.

Ultimately you want to see how things play out in reality. I´d be concerned about the Neptune contacts, specially watch for yours : Venus square to Neptune. Also Uranus on Mercury will bring the unexpected. Just be cautious about it.

"At the same time always wondering “what if” for the rest of my life."

Hey, you never know! :3:
July 18, 2021 at 05:29
(Pisces) jambuck » OctoberScorpio
The composite is newer for me. I read some people think it’s bogus when others don’t, so being a newbie I don’t really know what to think. I’ll start diving into that now. It’s been almost a year since I’ve really gotten into astrology….and JUST bc I’ve been wanting answers for these feelings lol. But now I really love it, it’s crazy.
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July 18, 2021 at 05:46
(Scorpio) OctoberScorpio » jambuck
The main energy is in the 8th, how the egos are both showing up together. The 8th represents deep seeded things, psychology, sexuality, crisis, difficulties, ups and downs, transformations, death/rebirth. You see things in each other others don´t, and it´s very difficult to resist, ignore the intense level of attraction. The relationship somehow feels faithed, like you are bond together.

You might challenge each other a lot. whatever you read about Moon square Pluto or Mars square Pluto might not always come out that way. There´s a strong level of attractiveness and this "harsh" aspect can be worked with, overcome. There´s also a good amount of aspects that are supportive, positive, in the synastry and composite,

if you like him and aren´t seeing any "red flags, I´d try it out and see where it goes
July 18, 2021 at 15:30
(Leo) plumreve » jambuck
That composite! ha.

- Sun conjunct Venus in the 8th, with Jupiter in there blowing it up. and they´re conjunct in Pisces with ruler of Pisces in the 5th. and they´re trine Pluto

- Moon conjunct Mars in the seventh.

- Chart ruler in the 7th.

- Ruler of the 5th house ON the Descendent (and it´s Saturn... I have a pretty specific and steamy interpretation of this, but it may not apply... more readily, though, it could speak to the age difference).

- Uranus conjunct Neptune in the 5th (dreamy, electric romance)

- Steamy Lilith in the first (no idea why but this also conjures for me a relationship where the woman is older).

- Pluto in Scorpio in the 4th, trine sun/venus, sextile Uranus/Neptune.

- NN in a house ruled by chart ruler... also in 10th, suggesting it might happen second half of life or again, one of you is older.

My only reservation about this chart would be Chiron in the first (and Saturn on the Desc.. but I think it may have unusual meaning for you here, and beyond that can actually just mean commitment here).

but this is FUN composite. damn.
July 18, 2021 at 15:33
(Leo) plumreve » plumreve
okay.. also a little bit heavy (8th house sun here, so I see this 8th house stuff and just go "yes, please") ... and then venus and Jupiter there to give it some ease.
July 18, 2021 at 16:38
(Pisces) jambuck » OctoberScorpio
I so appreciate all of your insight! Thank you for taking the time to read and share with me. I’m definitely feeling the faited connection, and no red flags that I know of, but possibly it’s just not the right time in our lives?
July 18, 2021 at 16:41
(Pisces) jambuck » plumreve
Wow! Ok now I’m even more confused 😆. Thinking you guys were all going to tell me “girl you are crazy, this is embarrassing for you, do yourself a favor and forget this person cause it’s bad”.
The specifics of what you said are so dead on. I too am also wondering if it’s an age difference, or possibly a “later on in life” connection.
About to do another deep dive lol
July 18, 2021 at 16:56
(Leo) plumreve » jambuck
On the contrary, if I had this composite with someone, I don´t think I could resist it. I had fun, romantic feelings just reading it.

The only caveat being Chiron in the first... but that can unfold in myriad ways depending on levels of consciousness.
July 18, 2021 at 17:25
(Pisces) jambuck » plumreve
You have definitely made me feel better and not insane for being so pulled by him and it’s not just me being weirdly obsessive for no reason. I’m definitely a daydreamers
And can dream up entire scenarios too often and it’s all fun, wild, and romantic 😆. I truly appreciate all your insight…guess I have to sit with this some more.
July 18, 2021 at 18:18
(Pisces) jambuck » plumreve
Reading again, I wouldn’t hate if you shared that pretty specific interpretation of Ruler of the 5th house on the defendant♥️
July 18, 2021 at 18:36
(Leo) plumreve » jambuck
hahahaaa ... just that one of you could get a little "bossy" ... in a fun way ; ) if you know what I mean.
You said he was direct in a way that kind of stops your heart. that feels like Uranus/Pluto/Saturn .. but Uranus is in 5th and 5th´s ruler on descendent, and its´ Saturn. and then ... someone´s nodes being in the other´s 12th/6th

alternative interpretations:
- romance and intimacy are very structured and or committed

- or are receiving limits from Saturn (like time limits, distance limits)

- or all of this is set to happen later after time and setbacks.
July 18, 2021 at 22:02
(Scorpio) OctoberScorpio » jambuck
Well I mean seems like you are very interested in him, why wait ? if it´s something else with the timing, well you know better than me. Did you mean because of current transits ?

it´s a lot to unravel. You need to look at both individual charts first, yours, his, see the primary motives. for example, this person has most of the energy concentrated in the 10th. Sun Mercury Mars Saturn, in the house of career, long-term goals, reputations/public image, (experts) this man is knowledgable, skillful and wants to be right. His moon is square to Saturn. . . it is interesting you both have this aspect in the same signs.

Once you understand his chart, look into the synastry and composite. I´d say go with the flow and see how it goes. Maybe in 3~4 months revue how you feel about everything, because 8th house relationships take A Lot of our energy.
July 18, 2021 at 22:37
(Pisces) jambuck » OctoberScorpio
It is very interesting. I’m extremely goal oriented, business owner, and he was one of my clients. I’ll definitely be looking into the individual charts more!
July 19, 2021 at 20:39
(Aries) nutelina
Finally an interesting story. Write a novel!
July 19, 2021 at 21:39
(Scorpio) OctoberScorpio » nutelina
lol. Would this be like a romance novel or part of the "astroseek memoirs" ?!
July 19, 2021 at 21:49
(Aries) nutelina » OctoberScorpio
Isn´t it great to hear some good news for once on this forum? :3: I think anyone can write a good story but true stories are special.
July 19, 2021 at 21:54
(Scorpio) OctoberScorpio » nutelina
Very true !!

most people are either wondering "when am I going to find love or what career should I do"

(ps: I´ve also asked myself the same questions lol)

But she found Love !! :79: :80:
July 19, 2021 at 23:00
(Leo) plumreve » jambuck
"business owner, and he was one of my clients"

Well, regarding meeting through work...

- His ascendent in your 10th (with it´s ruler, the moon, in your 7th, *and* in his 7th)

- His Mercury, which is your chart ruler, conjunct his midheaven *in your 7th* and your chart ruler Mercury in his 7th (conjunct Uranus).

- His Jupiter in your 6th - work luck ; )

And then for all of the intense 8th house stuff in the composite, there´s more of it in the synastry.

agree that this is a fun post to visit!
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