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Need Taurus man insight
January 13, 2020 at 12:14 (UT/GMT)

Need Taurus man insight
I need some insight and probably a blunt truth. I started seeing a Taurus man a little over a year ago. I was very clear with him from day one that I was only interested in something real and he said he was too. We took things very slow, as I’ve learned is the way with a Taurus. I’m a Leo.
We saw each other once or twice a week typically but most of the time we were spending time at his place. Part of the reason for not going out together much is because he is the high school basketball coach in our small town. One of my 2 high school age daughters is a cheerleader for the basketball team, and I’m very involved with sports boosters and things at school. We agreed that it was best to keep things private because of all the grey area there.
Things moved very slow with us and we never officially put a title on our relationship. He has 2 kids with 2 different women and has amicable relationships with both. I also have an amicable relationship with my ex husband/kids’ father so I didn’t have a problem with this. Until November.
In November, a picture was brought to my attention of him and his younger son’s mom at a party. They were standing next to each other, he had his arm around her shoulders and she was holding that hand. Now, part of me felt like it wasn’t a huge thing because I know they’re friendly and part of me felt like it crossed some boundaries. So I sent him the pic and asked about it. He had a very reasonable explanation that they are both friends with the hosts, didn’t know the other would be at the party and that she asked someone to take the pic.
But he had also previously told me that she still very much has feelings for him and brings up getting back together frequently. He said that he always tells her he doesn’t want that. So I told him that the pic looked like there was more to it than just running into each other at a party. He apologized and said he should have told me about it.
So things were fine after that for a while. He told me on thanksgiving that when he stopped by to see his son, they took a family pic together. I appreciated that he told me and we left it at that.
That brings us to Wednesday. Another pic was brought to my attention. It happened to be the pic from thanksgiving. He’s sitting on the couch with his son on his lap on one side and her on the other. I was pissed. I sent it to him and basically told him I’m not interested in wasting my time if there’s somewhere else he’d rather be. I support him having good relationships with his kids’ moms, but this looks like more than that. And I said if you want me in your life, I’d also like to have good relationships with your kids’ moms. I also brought up my ex and how we get along but have boundaries, so a pic like that would never happen.
He called on his break at work to tell me this was the pic he told me about on thanksgiving. He also said he needed to think about some things and would call me later.
He called that night and told me he needs to take a step back from everything and figure his life out. He said up until that morning, he thought everything was going really good between us and that he wants me. But he needs to figure out everything else. He said this (taking a step back) isn’t what he wants. I asked if that meant we were done completely or if this was kind of on hold until he figures things out. He said he didn’t know. I asked if he wanted to be with his sons mom and he said he didn’t know. I asked what he wants from me and he didn’t know. He told me I’m everything he wants in a woman, but he needs to take a step back. He did share a lot with me that he’s never said before - to anyone. About how he wants to be more involved in his kids’ lives and he wants to change jobs and maybe quit coaching so he can watch his older son play basketball. I gave him my honest opinion about a few things. He told me he appreciates me and that means more to him than it maybe does for other people. He said he didn’t want to hurt me, he just needed to figure things out. I said I feel like I’m gonna get a call from you in 6 months and he said I’d hear from him before that but feel free to curse him out.
So I don’t know how to process this. Obviously we ended things and it hurts. This isn’t what I want and he says it’s not what he wants. I respect that he needs to figure things out for himself and obviously if he still has feelings for his ex, I don’t want to be a second choice. I just don’t know if the things he said mean there’s any hope of him coming back to me or if I should just move on. I love him and want him in my life but I don’t want to feel like I’m convincing someone to want to be with me. Any Taurus’ out there willing to shed some light? I just don’t want to be naive and think there’s hope if this was just a nice way of saying it’s not you, it’s me. Help! His birthday is May 5, 1984 and mine is August 19, 1982.
We saw each other once or twice a week typically but most of the time we were spending time at his place. Part of the reason for not going out together much is because he is the high school basketball coach in our small town. One of my 2 high school age daughters is a cheerleader for the basketball team, and I’m very involved with sports boosters and things at school. We agreed that it was best to keep things private because of all the grey area there.
Things moved very slow with us and we never officially put a title on our relationship. He has 2 kids with 2 different women and has amicable relationships with both. I also have an amicable relationship with my ex husband/kids’ father so I didn’t have a problem with this. Until November.
In November, a picture was brought to my attention of him and his younger son’s mom at a party. They were standing next to each other, he had his arm around her shoulders and she was holding that hand. Now, part of me felt like it wasn’t a huge thing because I know they’re friendly and part of me felt like it crossed some boundaries. So I sent him the pic and asked about it. He had a very reasonable explanation that they are both friends with the hosts, didn’t know the other would be at the party and that she asked someone to take the pic.
But he had also previously told me that she still very much has feelings for him and brings up getting back together frequently. He said that he always tells her he doesn’t want that. So I told him that the pic looked like there was more to it than just running into each other at a party. He apologized and said he should have told me about it.
So things were fine after that for a while. He told me on thanksgiving that when he stopped by to see his son, they took a family pic together. I appreciated that he told me and we left it at that.
That brings us to Wednesday. Another pic was brought to my attention. It happened to be the pic from thanksgiving. He’s sitting on the couch with his son on his lap on one side and her on the other. I was pissed. I sent it to him and basically told him I’m not interested in wasting my time if there’s somewhere else he’d rather be. I support him having good relationships with his kids’ moms, but this looks like more than that. And I said if you want me in your life, I’d also like to have good relationships with your kids’ moms. I also brought up my ex and how we get along but have boundaries, so a pic like that would never happen.
He called on his break at work to tell me this was the pic he told me about on thanksgiving. He also said he needed to think about some things and would call me later.
He called that night and told me he needs to take a step back from everything and figure his life out. He said up until that morning, he thought everything was going really good between us and that he wants me. But he needs to figure out everything else. He said this (taking a step back) isn’t what he wants. I asked if that meant we were done completely or if this was kind of on hold until he figures things out. He said he didn’t know. I asked if he wanted to be with his sons mom and he said he didn’t know. I asked what he wants from me and he didn’t know. He told me I’m everything he wants in a woman, but he needs to take a step back. He did share a lot with me that he’s never said before - to anyone. About how he wants to be more involved in his kids’ lives and he wants to change jobs and maybe quit coaching so he can watch his older son play basketball. I gave him my honest opinion about a few things. He told me he appreciates me and that means more to him than it maybe does for other people. He said he didn’t want to hurt me, he just needed to figure things out. I said I feel like I’m gonna get a call from you in 6 months and he said I’d hear from him before that but feel free to curse him out.
So I don’t know how to process this. Obviously we ended things and it hurts. This isn’t what I want and he says it’s not what he wants. I respect that he needs to figure things out for himself and obviously if he still has feelings for his ex, I don’t want to be a second choice. I just don’t know if the things he said mean there’s any hope of him coming back to me or if I should just move on. I love him and want him in my life but I don’t want to feel like I’m convincing someone to want to be with me. Any Taurus’ out there willing to shed some light? I just don’t want to be naive and think there’s hope if this was just a nice way of saying it’s not you, it’s me. Help! His birthday is May 5, 1984 and mine is August 19, 1982.

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January 16, 2020 at 19:16

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What Sus said. It´s possible he´s trying to see what he can get away with, or could be he´s just slow like a Taurus, dragging his hooves on making a decision. The leo rising in me is like "Whatever he´s gotta do is on him. You can´t depend on him for your own happiness." You have a life you love and people who love you, children par example. Don´t worry about trying to stay in touch with him. If he wants you he WILL make it happen. Until then do you and take care of what you need to in your own life and enjoy it while you do so. I know it´s painful sometimes but you´ll be all the better for it. Good luck and never forget you are loved. <3

January 15, 2020 at 17:17


January 15, 2020 at 14:59

Just an update, I’ve gone to no contact since he responded to my text about returning his hoodie on Saturday. Yesterday, I got a Snapchat video from him in the middle of the day. 20 seconds of his son singing & dancing in the backseat, a quick pan to his own face, then back to his son. I was working so I didn’t open it til about an hour later and didn’t respond. A few hours later, he called me. I thought about not answering, but ultimately did. He addressed me by first and last name, told me he needed me to be his therapist, vented about his day at work, threw in an inside joke and thanked me for listening.
I’m getting the impression that he’s just feeling me out to see what he can get away with. I really didn’t engage much in the conversation - mostly because I was confused about why he was calling me. I’m back to no contact now and I’m really thinking through everything.

January 15, 2020 at 14:35

It´s not the most relevant aspect to understand a person. No way!! You need to check where is the moon, mercury, mars and venus and see how do they relate. Then the outer planets and how they relate with inner planets. Then check the house lords and house planets.
So...talking about sun Taurus (only and not complete) they are attached to things, places and people. They don´t like to loose anything! Even ex-wives...but when a Taurus guy is on love I assure you he´ll be commited, assume and put you a ring on your finger...


January 13, 2020 at 18:28

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honestly, you should move away from seeking answers through astrology or any other place right now and take a few deep breaths. try to shut the noise down and listen more closely to what is going on inside of you.
focus back to you and your path.
at least mirror his actions. he could have been talking for him and for you when he said „i need to figure things out“. you should do that too. not in the sense of playing mind games, in an honest, loving way. shift the focus on what really matters.
all the best


January 13, 2020 at 18:24

January 13, 2020 at 18:11

January 13, 2020 at 17:20

I’ve learned over the past year that he doesn’t typically do things the way most men do in my experience and he often uses his sign as an explanation for various behaviors.

January 13, 2020 at 17:15


January 13, 2020 at 16:58

Please spare us the bull, Mr. Taurus...



January 13, 2020 at 16:48



January 13, 2020 at 16:46

January 13, 2020 at 16:43


January 13, 2020 at 16:41


January 13, 2020 at 16:36

“Hey... just wanted to check in & see how you’re doing and remind you I have your hoodie (this is a sentimental hoodie his son gave him that he told me months ago he eventually wanted back). I think I may have left underwear at your place and Tanna (my daughter) is adamant about those plates! lol (I took him breakfast to work a few times, he kept the plates. My daughter jokingly said he better give them back at the time, I told him & it became a running joke. He says they’re his favorite plates). Let me know when you have time...... doesn’t need to be immediately”
His response was in two texts:
“I’m surviving but barely lol uhhhhh those plates are mine!”
Immediately followed by: “maybe I should let you keep the sweatshirt lol”
So does he just want to keep the plates/lose the sweatshirt so there’s something to remember each other by? Is it his way of having something to contact me about later? Does he just not want to see me now to exchange stuff??



January 13, 2020 at 16:24


January 13, 2020 at 15:45

Being the football coach he probably has some good looks/muscles and shit about him... and with his ex still wanting a relationship he now has options. But if him and the ex has kids as well with the ex that´s history... that ex will always be there and there´s nothing you can do about it.
You are insecure, but for good reason. You are not comfortable in the relationship.
Renegotiate the terms, or move on.
But it´s probably too late anyway... he needs time to figure out life. Shit I´f you got a career and kids, what else is there to figure out.
You fucked up when you made things private or on the low.
I know a Leo wants thier shine... So find someone else while he´s sitting on his fence... or... maybe his ex´s are sitting on his face...
You can´t control people, but don´t be stupid.
If you really want him, you need to find a way to be comfortable in the relationship...

January 13, 2020 at 14:24

"I need some insight and probably a blunt truth"
I think you should forgo this man altogether. Focus on raising your daughters to the best of your ability, and maybe when they are all grown up, if you still want to try pursue a companion way down the road. Try then. I think it would be best for your children and your sanity.
This man just sounds gross. Sorry.

January 13, 2020 at 14:21

By his own admission, the guy needs to figure things out.
All you can do is adjust your course of action as you see fit.

January 13, 2020 at 14:19


January 13, 2020 at 13:44


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