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Why I intimidate men unintentionally?
June 4, 2021 at 21:38 (UT/GMT)

Why I intimidate men unintentionally?
I have no idea if that happened all the time but recently I have realized that they act hesitant and even scared of me. Not only in relationships but also in group projects and friendships. What might have triggered this? Is it related to my 8th house placements?
It is easy to accept that I´m not someone´s type and move on but this... This is something unreasonable, even foolish.
Any idea?
It is easy to accept that I´m not someone´s type and move on but this... This is something unreasonable, even foolish.
Any idea?


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July 9, 2021 at 18:12

Why I said "intimidate" is that they make it clear they have an intention to get closer with me but they just stand and keep communicating, no actual effort, no honesty but just shallow chats. I wondered if I bore them or talk too much shit but they would cut off the communication in this case, wouldn´t they? No, they still want to be around and show their presence. They do not ghost (I hoped they do because at least that would be understandable). Secondly, I thought they interact with lots of women and they do the same to every woman but surprisingly, it wasn´t. That´s why I assumed that they are afraid of something about me.
"Maybe ask someone why they may feel intimidated by you, if you think that is the case."
Well, one of my friends used to say that I´m quite pessimistic about love but I´m gonna ask her this question, too.


July 9, 2021 at 17:34


There is also Neptune in 1st. God... I hope this chart does not put me into trouble

Pluto/Chiron conjunction makes sense a lot in 11th house. Besides giving an introverted attitude, it also gave me an abusive friend who stole my stuff and just vanished.
"Also Pluto in your 11th is now exactly square progressed venus in 8th"
That makes more sense than Venus/Pluto trine. There is always something harsh, insurmountable in relationships and I get hurt.
This also made me think that perhaps the reason why the relationships sucked in past is because of the surroundings´ intentions. There were probably gossips and incitements.

July 9, 2021 at 17:12


No doubt she influences my fashion sense which is good to have but in relationships, she may not be good I guess. There was someone handsome who have Lilith in 1st house just like me and his presence made me feel rather uncomfortable and however honest(!) he was, there was nothing to ease this effect. When I think about it in my case, I can say that we seem simply unreliable. However, considering what others said about my chart, I should not only blame her.

July 9, 2021 at 17:01

I guess Gemini gives that vibe in my 7th house unfortunately. Constantly there were lots of offensive criticism towards my appearance, style etc and lots of quarrels about the cheats I hadn´t done.
The more quiet I remain, the more confident they become to hurt me verbally. More blame, more curse. So the 7th house brought me men with typical unevolved Gemini attitude, nothing deep.

July 7, 2021 at 14:04


Also Pluto in your 11th is now exactly square progressed venus in 8th


July 7, 2021 at 13:58

You intimidate them, because you believe that you intimidate them or interactions you had in the past solidified that belief in you head.
Maybe ask someone why they may feel intimidated by you, if you think that is the case.
Nothing in your chart is going to show someone else´s reaction to you, because it is their reaction.

July 7, 2021 at 12:08


July 7, 2021 at 07:34



June 7, 2021 at 21:14

Glad you´re having a good time here.
Enjoy!

June 7, 2021 at 10:35

I totally understand. They want to be neither the first nor the last. They fail and flee like a pussycat when in attempt to scare or pressure on you if you´re formidable enough.
We both have similar placements and aspects. Sun/Mars, Mars/Rahu conjunction, Lilith in 1st house... wow. It also would not be wrong to think that Mars is the responsible in terms of intimidation besides the fire dominance.
"I will react, but not aggressively, not physically at least, and definitely not vulgar either (it goes against my Venus in Leo 🙂)."
You´re a Gemini, you may even kill them with your tongue

In my case, peace is never an ultimate option because I have enemies around, not here at least. Astro-seek makes me feel comfortable and I like the people here, I´m glad.


June 6, 2021 at 13:23

In my teen years I didn´t wait for a boy to notice me. And most of them did not react well to being addressed first. Which I still don´t understand.
And yes, in traffic and on the workfloor I will keep surprising men trying to intimidate me. I don´t like it, and I will react, but not aggressively, not physically at least, and definitely not vulgar either (it goes against my Venus in Leo 🙂).
But yeah, sharing the feeling of a broader misunderstanding, if I understood you well 😉

June 5, 2021 at 13:12

It was February 2020 and I knew that I have no more tolerance for some situations. All the abusive men including my father went away from my life. Capricorn might have played a role in this. It was hard to heal. There were threats from my ex, an obsessive effort to reach me but all they went away I´m glad...
Also agree with the nurturing part, there is so much work to do and they just look at my face, waiting to be completed. I take it very serious and it becomes a necessity to calm down nowadays.
Literally hated the SN/NN transits for 2 years... I just wait it to pass like nothing but it seems that is not possible.


June 5, 2021 at 04:42

well sometimes we speak directly, other times, indirectly..
is there a message in each case? of course there is.

June 5, 2021 at 02:19


June 5, 2021 at 02:08

well this often pays dividends in private..
but this takes some intelligence to perceive on the front side..
before you can reap the benefits on the back side..
but at age 21.. forget about guys understanding this.
guys that age are still struggling to understand masculinity, themselves.

June 5, 2021 at 02:01


June 5, 2021 at 01:55

What is your timeline - when did you start noticing an increase of restlessness and "strength" in your interactions?
Your past life is in Capricorn, 1st house - which implies that you were a leader in the past life - someone who took responsibility for others at your own expense. You worked hard. Often, when people are leaders, they have to make very difficult decisions that affect others. they make enemies and sometimes they are harshly judged. Since the SN represents a wound - you could have come back to heal a judgement made - so you can let that go. Pluto on the SN would be asking you to look at that - to look at what of Capricorn, 1st house you need to let go of. First house is also leadership. The two big leadership signs are Aries and Capricorn.
I beieve it was Ram Goat who said, you need to nurture yourself, and I bet he was reading the North Node - in Cancer, 7th. That´s the balance needed. You don´t have to be of service this time around - even if you like to be - and if you do, it truly needs to be balanced with self-nurture - in relationship. It´s about learning to allow others to carry some of the burden - to be a partner in the making of solutions - and not have to go it alone. Those Cancer 7th house placements help you to be more sensitive to others. So, tune into your Cancer planets - it could help.
Anyway, there could be other influences - but the Pluto transit just popped out at me. It´s also opposing natal Mars.

June 5, 2021 at 01:54

Speaking of Capricorn. Your south node in the first house is in Capricorn. This means you have expressed Capricorn trait in many of your past lives and it is natural for you and it is in your house of self.
That south node in Capricorn in the first house definetly plays a role in your looking like a Capricorn. While your natal ascendant is Sagittarius, like myself, your progressed ascendant will be in Capricorn.
If you haven´t already learned about the north and south node in astrology, I can´t recommend enough looking into them.

June 5, 2021 at 01:38


June 5, 2021 at 01:36

Haha exactly, we do it more violently if there is someone who is insolent or does mansplaining.
"Also given Capricorn is intercepted for you I think that might have some role to play since Capricorn is the father and indicate relationships with men overall."
Yeah, that may be one of the reasons why men are the chains in my ankle every time and I look more like a Capricorn too.
You have sensible thoughts, thank you


June 5, 2021 at 01:36

I´ll look at your transits in a bit.


June 5, 2021 at 01:17

here is the real world problem.. in here honesty is easy..
out in the real world, it´s much more complicated.
but that is also a lesson in seeing through the bullshit in life.
so practice honesty in here first, then try to practice it in real life as best you can.
of course the two domains are different.. but also, they connect in certain places too.

June 5, 2021 at 01:16

That is so true. Sometimes I feel the discomfort of people around me just because I seemed competitive without intention. I guess they perceive it as a threat to their life. That´s probably why I have only one girl friend.

It is extremely hard to find someone to get along well; for love? it seems impossible. Most men assume they are confident but when it comes to taking action, they disappear or become ultimate drama queens. Wow so original.
I noticed that Aries IC makes me restless about everything and I may easily gain enemies with my tongue. Ugh.
Hope I may slow myself in the following days because I feel lots of fire energy inside me recently and have no idea how to deal with it. Water makes me feel calm for a little while at least.
Thank you for your time and comment Jay Jay.


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