How can I stop myself from shaking when I’m angry? - Discussions, questions

Trevor77 I want to try and word this the best I can.

Mars in the 10th house will honour you with strength, courage, stamina and warrior or athelete qualities potentially.. as this placement is in many sport enthusiasts.

So next to Jupiter its showing this as a Beneficial spot as opposed to a weakness which your describing it.

In the 10th house is Public, Out in the World so suggestions would be any kind of sports like swimming, womens footy or boxing.

but as we´re going through a pandemic, you have Leo on 4th house and Mars is your 12th ruler which is any kinda therapy, so creative arts at home having therapeutic benefit eg. colouring

nutelina Thanks for being so honest and open. I have Mars in Pisces too. I hate confrontations, if it gets to it, it´s really bad. But I know everybody here knows that by now

However, my voice doesn´t shake, it is very strong. My daugther can yell like me too, she is Capricorn with Moon in Virgo. The other Capricorn moon, she can sing very well but she doesn´t yell. Maybe she doesn´t feel threatened, also Leo rising instead of us Cancer rising (my oldest). How is Mercury connected to the voice I wonder?

Earth moons are pretty dominant that´s what I know from experience Calm, calm, calm, then volcano outbursts. My oldest Capricorn daugther with Virgo moon cries afterwards too, maybe some bottled up emotions?

Mars in Pisces is also legs? Maybe you feel you have no strength but only in the legs?

I saw your Sun is in the 11th and some others, check your transits. Also Saturn in the 11th in Aries natally.

Awadamafever » Trevor77 Thanks, I did karate and played volleyball when I was younger but I’ve been wanting to get back into martial arts or another sport. Haha I also used to draw a lot so I don’t know why I stopped all that since I felt better when I was being active and doing creative things anyway. I’ll get back into them.

Awadamafever » nutelina It’s weird because I can yell just not in arguments lol. I think it’s some adrenaline or something making me shake with anger that I need to release. And yeah I definitely have some bottled up emotions haha it’s something I need to work on. My mom was always super emotional and my dad is the complete opposite and can easily get pissed off and yells no problem. So it’s like 2 different extremes and then there’s me always keeping things together. Instead of telling someone off I usually rant to myself in my head and say all the things I didn’t say. I feel like it’s kinda good in a way since if I said what I was thinking when I’m an in an argument, I’d probably say something evil haha I can say some mean things. Saturn in the 11th house in aries resonates a lot. Since I’ve always had problems asserting myself but in other situations I have no problem, I’m a paradox lol.

fishscales If there´s a situation in which you feel like you´re going to get angry, excuse yourself and take some deep breaths...get centered until you´re no longer angry... You will most likely naturally begin to see all sides of the situation...then readdress it. Also, get yourself to the point where you feel detached from the outcome of the situation: concentrate on right action. Don´t fight for yourself, fight for an ideal: resolution, sanity, justice, etc.

Offer up your ego as sacrifice to resolve the situation... Do this in your mind, there is no need to speak it.. Let the fearless, higher parts of yourself take over...they won´t lead you astray.

Amidst all this, make sure you aren´t taking a "peace at any price" approach...fight for what you know is right... Which may not always be what you think you "want"...

You said you´ve practiced martial arts... Any internal ones like Tai chi or Aikido?

These can help you adopt a calmer mindset in general, and also in these types of situations...it´s almost as if they short circuit the fight or flight response...which is what´s causing you the stress in these situations.

A good breathing exercise regimen can work wonders too...

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Only one firm and real opposition (and trigon) in natal could help you a lot. This way, with all these sextiles and squares, you are generating great amount of energy that has no focus and acts like an obcurus and being that wild, it is very hard to controle...

You can overcome this troughout good composite (close friend, member of family, partner...) or the way you already started to overcome this - meditation, wisdom, selfrealisation, trainig ...

nutelina » Awadamafever Ugh... always have been mending my parent´s relationship as well. Not my part to partake in! Seems you have some emotional clean up to do. I wouldn´t say this normally but many people used MDMA or similar to release such emotions. I´d do it with natural psychological methods first but after years of work I still think to really go back to that emotional brainstate you need something more to open up. The rational brain cannot understand but needs to stay in control or at least we have learned that, as we all, I think.

I often would go ranting in my head as well. You need to speak up or write a book. Get all that crap out of your system

Since when do you think you couldn´t speak openly about your feelings? You don´t necessarily have to answer here but for yourself. Sometimes when we cannot be kids that energy is blocked and can be harmful. Everything has to come out for us to heal. Such bottled up emotions can even lead to disease much later in life. I say can, not will so don´t worry. You should foremost not take anything from people who try to control or oppress you seriously. That´s how they have power over you. Maybe it helps to come out of that role. And be yourself for once!

Studying yourself and your relationships through Astrology is a great tool. I did it with my parents and grandparents already. It has revealed much more than I would have every thought!

nutelina » Moon_Queen Good idea. Just be careful with people who want something in return. They always seem have hidden agenda´s when they say they don´t need anything

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You´re right there

Free is usually not that free at all...The best option is a mutual interest.

Awadamafever » fishscales Thank youuu for that and I’ve had interest in Tai chi but never tried it and aikido I’ve heard of but don’t know much about but I’ll look into both.

Opal E Mercury in Capricorn is the midpoint between your Mars and Pluto. Utilize the communication to assist you from shaking calmly. Read about Mercury in Capricorn.

Anamel haha same here, I have my mars in the first house in pisces and I shake when I´m angry, even my face twitches uncontrollably. Voice shakes too. It´s weird and it sucks

nutelina » Anamel On video or I don´t believe you!

https://www.quora.com/Why-do-I-shak…

nutelina And have some fun!

Luna Alba » nutelina Does the mother of the girls have a prominent Capricorn Signature/Cap Sun/Moon/Rising?

I see that both your daughters have an important Cappie influence, and it seems it´s not inherited from you ?

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I advise you to do karate again. it releases a lot and allows you to control your emotions you will gain self-control.
karate is not a violent sport it´s a fight against oneself (control,respect and discipline). it´s easy,you could try?

nutelina » Luna Alba Their mother is Aries Sun with Gemini Moon, Sag rising. https://horoscopes.astro-seek.com/c…;

Her north node is in Capricorn, 1st house...

Filip I think that the main issue here is not anger, thus purely Mars related, but rather the assertiveness.

Yeah, you do have a major 8th house influence, alongside Cap Moon, making showing your emotions quite hard (anger included ofc), and yeah, you do have non confrontational Pisces Mars and Pluto square and also Jupiter on top of it all (which is probably not helping here (increases what it touches & Mars = anger))...

But, assertiveness and earth shattering, "on the dime" anger expression == Aries & 1st house.
You have Saturn in Aries AND 1st house ruler (Merc) in a square to it. Also Sun/Neptune conjunction...

That said leads me to believe that the best way would be to work on assertiveness. Once you improve it, easier and more "flowing" anger expression will follow by extension...
Perhaps by, whenever possible, getting yourself somewhere private in front of a mirror (eg. bathroom), following a confrontation and simply "emptying your gut" while watching yourself do it. Rince and repeat and eventually you´ll be able to do it completely calmly but effectively (Cap Merc & in aspect with Saturn).

Why do that? Well, Saturn could be subconsciously making you feel ashamed and afraid of yourself and anger (all Aries stuff)...
Solution == face it!
You have what it takes (Karate is a "disciplined fighting", isn´t it..... ), you´re just being challenged to bring it out on your own and own it (square).