Feeling peace..yet lonely? - Discussions, questions

GreenMoon you feel lonely because you are wiser and you maybe silenced your demons, for now. others are not in the same spot as you are now, so they should figure out their own path. it s hard to be near them because they may think you see yourself superior to them when you give advice or you just show them you care or what worked for you. anyways, who will understand, will stay. the same for you. loneliness is a ”risk” when you see the world with other eyes. :) still, i don t think you should not socialize, try to find meaningful connection. it is possible.

Serg64 When I took a class that broadened my horizons they warned me of this happening. But honestly I was already lonely before hand - so the change didn´t really have an obvious effect. But in my case it was just timing - close friends had gotten married and had kids - they didn´t have time for the usual stuff anymore.

After a bit - positive effects of being ´enlightened´ came and my life improved. Now I´m married and have kids too - and no longer have time for social life just like my friends didn´t.

oxx{]:::::::::::::::::::> Had that, but in the very beginning of my spiritual journey. Unlike you, I cut everyone off at once and boy was it difficult... I used to be extremely extraverted, always the one to go the extra mile just to hang out with my friends, invited home, had group activities and never ever turned my back on anyone. Then, I developed interests that none of my friends had, I was often silenced, so I thought screw this and never met any of them as friends again. It was really difficult, at least for the first 3 months, but then something happened and I never cared for it. I began exploring and being who I wanted to be without any resistance. Years went by, I realised that friends for the most part are like leaves that can be blown by wind so that gave a green light to focus on my passions even more. With time I turned inward and started observing my actions, reactions, basically how I am shaped, it carried on for about 2-4 years where I was extremely isolated, the entirety of my focus was on self mastery. Then about two years ago, I became so sensitive to my inner world that I managed to let go of what I wanted the most, which is what I believed to be lacking the most. There was existential fear because of what I was (secretly)hoping to find during my lifetime was to change. When I made the step, true enlightenment came. It stuck with me for a bit, but then, I allowed the very thing that I lost fear of losing to enter my life and well, I got back to square 1. Since then I am living with the idea that I´ll get back up there, but I won´t be swayed then. It was truly the best time of my life and let me enlighten you on something I learned about lonelyness and life itself during that time...

If you look at everything around you, you will realise that none of it was truly made by you. It was brought for you, built for you, gifted for you. To teach you, to shelter you, to bring joy to you. Even by those who didn´t really want, it was still done, and all for you. While on the surface nobody might be there to experience it with you, but beneath you´ll find the hands of care of the entire world. Appreciate it, be grateful for it, say thanks for it and I promise you that you will never feel alone. 🙏

Linda Harris (Aries) agedashitofu
Feeling peace..yet lonely?
"Does anyone have the same journey of feeling lonely in being ´enlightened´?"

Yes. It´s an inevitable state of being....when you spend your life finding ´truth"....and you find yourself having become a philosopher. And ...almost all philosophers are pretty cynical- if not depressed...because much of the rest of the world is happy in whatever state of "blissful ignorance" they find THEMselves...

Unfortunately, you can´t UN-Know what you have learned.

Linda

Fireyfish I read this earlier today and then went on about my day but I kept thinking about your words.

Somehow I feel this as well. It seems that the more I work on shedding what´s not needed and work on the best version of me, I lose people. In the long run I guess it´s ok because they weren´t meant to grow with me. It can be lonely at times though, I´m very grateful for my family.

Thanks for sharing, it´s always nice to know someone else feels the same.

Fireyfish » oxx{]:::::::::::::::::::> You are wise beyond your years.....

agedashitofu » Fireyfish Hahaha I have saturn in my first house after all :-)

I read your other reply and glad it resonated. The other replies here also assured me that despite the loneliness, i´m on the correct path. I wouldn´t go back to how I was with these people, so focusing on the present it is

I hope you have a great day!

AishaNicole1 I honestly feel that this whole forum explains my life right now. Sometimes shutting out the outside nose can feel lonely at first… I would say use that time to build hobbies, learn what you like/love, spend time with friends or family. This is the time to do what YOU love 💗. I hope this helps

Starryeye I feel like the things you described it´s about me.after covid I have been having this thoughts constantly and I was thinking it´s the effects of distancing with people and lockdowns but now there´s no covid as in lockdowns and distancing.and I´m realizing when you become wiser and you prefer peace than chaos it feels like you are alone.when I was about 22 till 28 I was going out alot most of the time I was not at home
But my circle of friends became less and less.when you love and take care of yourself it becomes lonely but now I´m actually glad to know who is meant to be on my path and whose not.i only have friends of 2.

Starryeye » agedashitofu Wow.i have Saturn in my first as well.irs interesting.