North Node in Aquarius 4th house

May 8, 2019 at 13:31 (UT/GMT)
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North Node in Aquarius 4th house
Lately I´ve been confused about this placement.

For years I didn´t care for having a family, getting married, raising babies. The thought of it feels so foreign. Something changed when transit Taurus entered my 7th house.

I had this mentality that I should aim higher and higher in my education and career.

But I couldn´t go any further whenever I´m ambitious to be like the "in-crowd" with these amazing careers and high status profiles.

These people appear so established and capable to at least financially raise a family.

I mean I´m sure being a stay at home mother is a luxury.

I´m not rich. I don´t have a high paying job. I don´t have the networking savvy skills to meet the right people nor future husband who could possibly provide for the best.

I don´t understand. My south node leads me away from only focusing on career/being a public figure/status driven yet if the north node in the 4th calls for being a mother, raising a family, being at home, how can I be that if the reality is that you have to have a stable career or lots of money to have that life? I don´t know many people who are happy in their family life while working 2 jobs or in a shitty relationship.

The only way to be a mother is to have a career so I can meet eligible men. Convince me otherwise because everyday I see happier couples with their babies in rich areas whenever I visit them.

It´s really all hopeless. I want a stable marriage and a family. I FINALLY want that life but it seems like a dream now more than ever.

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May 8, 2019 at 15:55
(Taurus) » fishscales
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Do you have children? I´ll probably understand my placement if people told their story.

I don´t expect to have a perfect "traditional" family at all.

My original question is (because the 4th house is home and FAMILY), how can I achieve being a mother if most well off mothers came from money and great careers? I see this in my reality every freaking day.

If my south node in Leo is leading me AWAY from being status driven and career focused then how can I raise a family? These days you need money/career to do those things.

I guess the key word is balance?
May 8, 2019 at 15:51
(Gemini) pneumadeux » yutaya
I have seen the full spectrum. From poverty and abuse, to wild, ostentatious opulence. Both personally and observationally.

Astrology aside, your phrasing leads me to see that you are not open to possibilities unless they conform to your pre-programmed notions.

Until you can visualize and actually experience the emotions of attainment within yourself before those tangible things appear, you will be stuck and frustrated in a world of impossibility.

When you ask, “… How can I trust it,“ you are implying that you cannot trust unless you have facts.

But trust implies faith, and faith does not require facts.
May 8, 2019 at 15:42
(Gemini) pneumadeux » fishscales
Well said, DManos.

I had just finished editing my post, not only to correct typos :-), but to reinforce the Aquarian aspect of the original poster’s fourth house north node.

This is very much a spiritual and internal reality; one that will be unique at least in so far as the world is concerned.

The original poster is (currently) locked into a traditional worldview.

But isn’t that really what the North node is all about? In order for any of us to realize the fulfillment, attainment, and culmination of that node, we have to go through a transformation. That’s exciting really.

And it involves surrendering… To Joy.
May 8, 2019 at 15:40
(Taurus) » pneumadeux
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Learning to surrender is great advice. I´ve done that many times and many good things DID happen. Like my home.

But if something like raising a family requires another person (a partner) how can I trust it? I´m ugly. I don´t have a lot of money. No perfect career. Not sexy enough. It´s never enough with men.

I´m not sure what you´ve seen but so far I´ve seen actual beautiful CONTENT families in rich areas.

Where I live. There´s many single mothers and abusive home life. I had to call 911 on my previous neighbors because of abusive disturbances.

Yes race and social ecomnical factors does play a factor in getting what you want in life.

That´s reality.
May 8, 2019 at 15:29
(Pisces) fishscales
I have this exact placement.

I can strongly relate to what pneumadeux is saying.

Think of the home as a base of operations for the soul, not as the traditional home as depicted in the "American dream" of a spouse, 2.5 kids and a dog.

Aquarian energy deals with humanity as a whole, the collective. Aquarius doesn´t particularly care about its status in the collective, but whether it has the freedom to interface with the collective in an unrestricted and honest way. In turn, Aquarius extends that same freedom to others.

On the surface, it seems that Aquarian energy doesn´t have alot to do with what many think of as the traditional meanings of the 4th house: home, family, etc.

However, home is what we make it.

Aquarius has to do with things that are bigger and beyond ourselves.

Perhaps, as holders of this placement, when we look beyond our personal desires and conceptions regarding who and what we are supposed to be, we find our home: the place where we can be who we were always meant to be.
May 8, 2019 at 15:23
(Taurus) » IIyyaarr13
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I don´t "want babies". They aren´t possessions.

They are real human beings I wish to RAISE one day at home. I want to nurture them to be who they are and help others along the way.

I´m just starting. I bought a home last summer. I´m learning a lot of myself being in my space. Being myself with my emotions. My body. My mind.
May 8, 2019 at 14:50
(Taurus) IIyyaarr13
:157: return means YOU are being born again.
You really want babies curbing your travel and freedom?
In the majority Astrology :161: & :162: are Rahu & Ketu which does not make them any less tough testing your generosity and creativity! :28: :39: :28: :24: :28: :24:
May 8, 2019 at 14:33
(Aries) ram_goat » pneumadeux
^^ Yes, what he said.. seriously.. read it 100x if needed, until his post makes sense.…
May 8, 2019 at 14:21
(Gemini) pneumadeux
There is an old saying that says something to the effect of:

“God cannot fill hands that are already full.”

And your hands — more specifically, your mind — is so overburdened that it’s unlikely you could hold a blessing if it were dangled in midair in front of you.

I hope that you can receive that in the spirit in which it was offered; I’m attempting to be straightforward and loving, not judgemental.

The North node sets before you the attainment toward which your soul yearns. You’ve got that right. But you’re both coloring it in with preconceptions and refusing to allow the universe to guide you to it in unique ways.

The simple fact that your North node is in Aquarius attests to the fact that the home you could create will most likely be very unique and non-traditional. At least it will be or should be crafted with a very open mind.

And there in lies the problem: your mind is not open presently.

Motherhood and family life is very strongly associated with 5th and 7th houses. I’d encourage you to separate those realities from the geographical and physical attributes of “creating a home.”

When you visualize a comfortable, fulfilling home for you and only you — irrespective of other souls — what do you see? There is a reason flight attendants tell you to “secure your own mask before helping others.”

Setting yourself up first in an emotional, spiritual, and geographical home base is your first priority. You’re conflating the topic with other aspects: wealth, partner, etc.

My strongest advice to you is — learn to surrender. Surrender your notions of what this attainment looks like. Open your heart to the very long term proposition that the universe will absolutely delight in bringing you to your soul’s purpose, but the way in which it organizes itself to fruition isn’t necessarily yours to construct.

Consider this: your hair grows and your heart beats, but you are clueless as how you ::do:: those things, yet — you do. Set your intention to be content in a happy home — then allow the intention and feeling of contentment to materialize.

There are many, many fulfilled and happy homes that are not flush with cash.
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