How do you cope with your enemies? - Discussions, questions

HankScorpio "Gray Rock"—be completely boring to them. Break contact, if possible.

I disconnected from most of the people in my life during the pandemic. Went through a lot of introspection in the years leading up to 2020 and when we went into lockdown, I took the opportunity to get away from people (both pandemic and mental health related reasons).

I´m not necessarily against revenge, I just feel like it´s too messy and unpredictable and I´m not really in a strong position. If it blows up in my face, I´m up a creek without a paddle. I also find that the people that do horrible things find their way back to the top, quickly. They wait it out and once things blow over, they woo people back with their charm and/or money.

I also feel like it´s a waste of energy. I´d rather save my strength for taking care of more important things, like the people that I *do* care about and love.

I won´t say it´s easy. I´ve had to deal with lite stalking, guilt trips, etc. But I feel so much better without these people around.

KALAGATHİA » KALAGATHİA Yapman gereken şey ise,iyilik potansiyelini kötülere görünür yapmamam.onlarin ilgisini çekersen herseyini alana kadar devam edecekler ve öyle ifrit ruhlari kendilerini seninle geliştirecegi elverisli bir ahmak olarak gorecekler.

KALAGATHİA » Zephyrin Erdemliligin seni melankoli ve ruhunu ezdigini hissetmeyene kadar boşvermeyi,unutmayi,negatif hisleri dönüştürmek icin yeni bir yakıt bulmalisin ,güzellikler uretmelisin.
Emin olki bir anda bile yapilacak o kadar kötülük biliyorumki.hah bir anda yapamasam da sonradan musallat olma özelligime "bir an" bile bakmamayi seçtim.unutma baskasina yaptigin yaptigin kötüluk en cok sana zarar verecek.bu sonsuz döngüde kaybolmak ,oraya hizmettir.

sim » Zephyrin Mars in Scorpio 5. Inventive. Water dominant, but one can be selective, saving feelings for those who deserve attention.

Zephyrin » KALAGATHİA Şanslıymışsınız ki bir anlık da olsa mücadele edebileceğiniz, kendinizi savunabileceğiniz zamanlar olmuş, bir karşılık vermişsiniz. Buna bile fırsatınız olmayabilirdi.

Allahtan artık bana acı veren o insanlarla istesem de muhatap olamam ve sanırım bu yüzden şükretmeli ve hayatıma kaldığım yerden devam etmeliyim.

Dediğiniz gibi kendimize yatırım yapıp yolumuza bakmaktan başka seçeneğimiz yok. Hayat öyle ya da böyle akacak, kara kara düşünüp kendimi hasta etmenin, kinlenmenin manası yok.

Ama bir Yengeç etkili olarak yaşadıklarımı unutmak aşırı zor ve bu da yoluma devam etsem dahi kötümserliğe sebep oluyor.

İntikam almak istemiyorum ama adalet istiyorum o kesin...

Zephyrin » yourstruly27 Wow, that is a wild story and I truly felt the same about revenge. I plan it secretly but there is nothing in action lol

"honestly revenge is just evil it truly is, that is why i say just cut them out your life (unless they kicked you down bleachers in front of your entire school) its just better to cut them out of your life and take back your power"

It is like anytime I think about taking revenge on them, they still exist in my life and torturing me, and yes it makes me feel powerless. Past couple weeks I try to spend time alone, just focusing on daily life and hobbies to forget about them completely.

You are definitely right, God will take my revenge better than I do.

ChironianSun » Zephyrin Cancer side of Zephyrin: don´t look at her angrily if you are puuuure love

If I can be honest... I think I´m a realist I say this because if I know I´m here to evolve, I´m not honest with myself if I get angry with them. Of course, it can take time to process that feeling because the mind has some mental patterns... But in the end, if you know what your truth is (in my case, this is my truth), you get to that state of peace/forgiveness with the other person. Sooner or later you get there, because you live your inner truth.

Wolfmoon » Zephyrin "I hope I let it go of the sadness and frustration and accept the fact that my enemies can no longer hurt me."

Time heals all wounds and shit happens. You can´t change what you can´t control. She has to suffer with herself. I no longer have to

There will always be assholes in the world. Sometimes they can be the ones you love. All we can do is learn and move on. Life is the journey

Ellilunaa » Zephyrin 🥲

This guy was a Capricorn moon too.

And he was 100% a narcissist, always trying to slither back into my life .

stigmí » Zephyrin I wrote something long and I deleted it by mistake
Sooooo x)

I was angry earlier that 8th brought me to those situations (those relationships and crisis) but now I see that it attracted those situations to transform my no acting to defend acting and asertive acting...and that it is finaly blessing of 8th house that helping me guard my borders and to be cruel when it is needed...
And my kindness x) I think kindness didnt brought me loss, my stupidity did it ; ) ; )
Kindness is something natural in my heart (cancer venus?)...but earlier it was not just kindness...it was kindness for everyone but not to myself...my low self esteem and low self worth...it made many situations when I suppressed or didnt recognize red flags feelings and then I was disappointed and hurted... When I turned this kindness to myself, I have myself on first place and thanks to this I recognize earlier when somebody treat me not fair and I can also react immediately...so then rest nothing why to revenge...
I learned it most in last relationship...this asertive acting...

So yes...we with significant 8th house will feel more intense those issues because 8th house is about our common energy, not just individuals...and if there is not balance, if someone who we let in our space abuse us, it is much more hurtful, because it is something that is stolen and torn from our deep space...and this injustice is deep in us...

I think sim wrote good points how to work with our system longterm not to meet extreme versions of it...
and I like also concept of chironiansun, that everything has some reason why it met us...

Zephyrin » Metaterrestrial I got you. If we didn´t believe a superior power will ensure justice for all of us, we wouldn´t hesitate to be evil when necessary, right?

But why would we bother ourselves?

Zephyrin » asteraceae "Get as far away from them as possible."

Well I already did without knowing the truth. It was 4 years ago and we don´t see each other anymore. We are in distant parts of the city, have no mutual friends and it is too late to do anything.

"process your emotions, let them go, and move forward in life."

Hmmmm I spent lots of time with myself, slept 14 hours today and now I don´t give a sh´t about that ex and my imitator, for now.

I have to deal with a more sly enemy messing with my sleeping schedule: Transit Sun-Neptune opposition

Zephyrin » AppleJollyRancher Yes the only thing makes me calm right now is karma. If it will take care of evils, there is no need for me to be evil.

Zephyrin » Wolfmoon As someone who has Pluto in 12H, I understand you. Most of the time I´m not aware of the evil people around either. I learn about them later.

Your ex is apparently dangerous omg if an ex would try to harm my pets or steal them I would turn into a female version of John Wick Sounds like you are truly patient against what she did.

"My reward is that she´s out of my life."

I´m happy for you.

I hope I let it go of the sadness and frustration and accept the fact that my enemies can no longer hurt me.

Zephyrin » Cancereverything Solitude is healing me too. I have been alone in most years of my life. Very few friends, couple bfs... I was a nerd.

Last 2 years there have been changes in these. I was more extroverted, made good friendships and took any guy I wanted.

But none of them except friendships made me happy. So I preferred solitude again and it is nice. At least my mind is relaxed.

"Thats what I do to relax once it becomes unbearable."

Yep, definitely. We don´t have to socialise all the time but I think spending more time with yourself is somehow addictive. No complains, though.

I need to work on letting things go and give up on overthinking and obsessing... It is gonna be damn hard

Zephyrin » sim No idea what is your Mars sign Sim but your ideas smell like Mars in Capricorn.

I do the favour part...

Martial arts attract my attention and I like it but don´t think I´m physically suitable for it.

Energy part is complicated. I try to do my best to stay away from people with negative energy. But when you are a water dominant or have water placements, you tend to attract all the positive and negative energy unintentionally in any place you enter and somehow it affects you until you find a way to get rid of it.

These are useful advices thank you very much Sim

Zephyrin » ChironianSun "So, in this case, why would I wish them dead if they came into my life to show me something for my good?"

You have a truly optimistic approach to revenge issue and agree with you to some extent.

Maybe it happened because to protect me from worse situations. It could be worse but I got away from it without getting much harm. So yes it didn´t satisfy my revengeful side but I found your point rational. *My Cancerian side is looking at me angrily*

Zephyrin » stigmí "If you are able to? If you are good at it? Try…"

If I get a chance, I try. Otherwise, I don´t bother myself. May God make their life hell, sincerely.

"I am not able to do this…I am too kind…I can do something in emotions but not in this way…"

Has your kindness brought you a loss or advantage when you are dealing with someone harmful stigmi? I feel mine brought loss to me and my hands tied as for revenge.

As far as I remember, you are a 8H dominant just as I am. It would make us good at harming our enemies emotionally if we were cruel enough.

Zephyrin » Ellilunaa Even we Turkish women dislike Turkish men lol

Definitely not my type, they tend to be boring, hypocritical and manipulative so I feel you.

If he was man enough, he himself would come to see you instead of nagging to make you come.

Metaterrestrial I cope by believing that there is some sort of afterlife where they will be punished in some form.

Unfortunately, I have no way of knowing for certain if such an afterlife actually exists.

asteraceae Hi Zephyrin ,

Get as far away from them as possible.

Revenge isn´t worth it and only drags you down to their level. Let Saturn deal with them.

Get as far away from them as possible, process your emotions, let them go, and move forward in life.

AppleJollyRancher I think I learned let the higher spiritual legal justice come down on them naturally, karma always comes around full circle, and it´s just amazing when you see it happen. Shows you don´t need to be ugly just because someone else chooses to be.

Ellilunaa » Erinmeow

I also firmly believe in karma. I’m a life path 8, and I was born on the 8th .
It looks like the infinite sign, because what goes around comes around . Always .

Wolfmoon Hard question to ponder. I don´t really have enemies and if I do I´m not aware of them (12th house Mars)

If people don´t like me, that´s on them. I´m not going to try and convince them. If they want to waste their time and life being negative towards me. So be it. What an empty way to be.

I´ll confront someone head on if I have to, but then I´m left alone for the most part.

My ex was someone who screwed me over. Stole my pets, starved my chickens, destroyed my things and messed up my house. I cried for my pets. I paid a cleaner to clean my house and adopted the chickens to the neighbors. My ex is gone and I couldn´t be happier. The psychotic nutcase spent a good long time wanting a reaction from me. The best thing I could do was ignore her.

Life is balance and she´ll get hers. My reward is that she´s out of my life. She has her demons and if she doesn´t confront them, they´ll consume her.

sim » Cancereverything ´mieux vaut être seul(e) que mal accompagné(e)´