How to express femininity with Venus in the 12th house? Is it possible? - Discussions, questions

Alisa1 » GreenMoon Thank you so much for your reply! You have written a lot of questions, which I will now reflect on. I think I´ve had this trait since childhood, but at some point everything went wrong. I´ve never really been non-binary, but I thought I was, because adults condemned me for showing this side, and I really wanted their approval 🤦🏻‍♀️ Thank you!

GreenMoon hi
why you think you are not feminine? what is your character, how you dress? manners?
i have 12th Venus and i felt very tomboy-ish/hippie/rocker type in highschool. i wasn t interested at all in fashion, beauty, make-up etc. in fact, i was pretty extremist saying that all this feminine habits are just limitations and industrial brainwashing which i despise. this i think partially even today lol. but guess what, at 22 y.o. i wanted to experiment with make-up and all of a sudden i wanted to be more put together.
my motivation was all the students around me - women that looked very polished, stylish etc. this made me curious to try it on myself.
feminity is a trait of personality, and if you have it, you have it, if not, not. it cannot be faked, you can not change that. you can work on manners, how to speak confidently & objectively, impersonal like a Libra - there are books about it.
feminity also means a sense of style (find your clothing style that suits your body type, you can find a lot about it on YT), good skin care (i recommend Dr Dray on YT), a bit of color on eyes and lips and voila!
Venus is about beauty, art, being creative.
so maybe you should find motivation/inspiration looking wherever on Pinterest, magazines or fashion shows, artistic movies, even a walking in the nature and feeling the wind, the flowers smell will connect you with universal beauty.

Ana Cerveza » Alisa1 If you say so

Alisa1 » Ana Cerveza This is the aesthetics of Aries Venus 😅

Ana Cerveza » Alisa1 I have the same placement, Aries venus (and moon). And my styles vary from hippie, pirate, bohemian, jeans and t-shirts/hoodie and pj´s

Alisa1 » Mike Seis Thank you very much! It’s very interesting

Mike Seis Venus at 12 house can be very idealistic and dreamy, losing herself in the subtle and platonic. But your Radix setup suggests that as you mature, you become a bit more down-to-earth.

Your Mars is in Sagittarius, but it´s part of your 6th house (ruled by Venus), so it´s similar to Venus and Mars being in mutual reception.

As time passes and soaking up the subject, you will discover the benefits of this configuration.

Alisa1 » AgGa Thank you so much for your reply. Yes, I asked questions about Venus, but I didn´t ask this question specifically.

Alisa1 » sim Thank you so much for your comment. What did you mean by that? Sorry, I didn´t really understand. English is not my native language, I sometimes don´t understand the meaning.

AgGa » Alisa1 Lilith has any rulership in the chart, Venus is a planet with a lot of influence.
Your progressive VenusRx will be 2026 out of the 12thH, so you will be more visible for others, but she is still in exile in Aries and in retrograde.
Your solar return Venus for this year is in the 7th H.
As I see, you are asking in this forum again and again about your Venus in the 12th (natal and/or progressive) and your feminity, and your questions were already answered.
If you want to make more for your Venus, then go to a Make-up or Fashion course, learn how to move, dance, try to express yourself, create a piece of beauty (painted, spoken or written) – just do Venusian things, and check how it works in your life. To express yourself as a woman is not only Venus, it is also the energy of your natal Sun/Pisces, which is feminine by sign.

sim Perhaps a subtle hint, inviting to discover your feminity. 12th house is more closeted, not up-in-your-face.

Could be fun.

Alisa1 » Spirto Maybe age has something to do with it. It’s really very interesting!

Spirto » Alisa1 Mmmmm and you are in the same age which i was when i felt that way and start wearing more feminine.

Interesting!

Alisa1 » Spirto Yes, I had the same. Before, I didn´t like feminine clothes at all, but now it´s the opposite

Spirto » dani_mae1 maybe Lilith in 1st house was something to do with it?
What about other planets?

Spirto » Alisa1 For the past 6-7 years i feel more comfortable in feminine clothes. But my personal style have changed over the years so i think it´s normal

Alisa1 » Spirto Thank you very much for your reply! I like to wear feminine clothes that are comfortable for me. I also never thought I was hiding anything, even if I was wearing a hoodie and jeans

Alisa1 » dani_mae1 Thank you very much! You´ve been very helpful.

dani_mae1 » Spirto This makes sense, you stated you were confident and expressed because you leaned into your natural energy. Confidence is easily translated psychologically to others in the way you just described. That’s really neat!

dani_mae1 » Alisa1 Yes, but it will require using the planets in soft aspect (start with trine or sextiles to your Venus) to your Venus. Unfortunately the only way to make the hidden come to light in the 12th house is by consciously using the energy, choosing to do so with action, or placements that naturally want to help it thrive in its best life.

Spirto I m confused. I have stelium in 12th with venus , mercury and saturn (in pisces, and my sun in conjunction but in 11th house) but i never felt that i m hiding something. For example I use to wear more comfortable clothes, less feminine , but not because i felt that i had to hide a part of me ,i felted so confident ! It was a personal style.

Alisa1 » dani_mae1 Thank you very much! I will definitely read the information about my Lilith.
Please tell me, will it be difficult for other people to perceive my Venus because it’s in the 12th house?

dani_mae1 Your 10th house Lilith—I recommend leaning into that energy to tap into your natural feminine expression as it will be easy for others to perceive you that way. Aquarius in Lilith archetype has many descriptive interpretations online and I suggest beginning by reading them and digesting the ones that resonate with you. Try playing with easy things to test out which archetype manifestation best suits you via clothing styles at first, test the waters then dive where you are called and feel the most confident in. I hope that helps you decide for yourself how to express your authentic feminine energy! Good luck.

Alisa1 » Ana Cerveza You´ve listed my favorite colors! Wow. Thank you very much, it´s very interesting. I really like the image you described, it resonates with me.

Alisa1 » Mike Seis Please tell me about the 12th house: can it interfere with me in the manifestation of my Venus in Aries? I just read that the planets in the twelfth house are hidden, but maybe it´s not so straightforward. I´m not sure. Thank you very much for your help!