Harsh aspects in synastry - a different perspective

October 26, 2021 at 14:23 (UT/GMT)
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Harsh aspects in synastry - a different perspective
Something that surprises me a lot about the synastry chart of me and my best friend is how we have some of the most challenging aspects, yet we never quarrel or argue about things. To give you an example, my moon is in opposition to her sun, and her moon squares my sun.

And I wonder if anyone on here has/had a similar experience - I feel like synastry charts with harsh aspects are often misunderstood. I have never met anyone whose chart was perfectly compatible with mine, but I feel like I would get bored of such a person, if that makes sense.

Assuming majority of the people on here like to socialise more than I do, I would be happy to hear about your personal experiences - comparisons of synastry charts of people with different aspects to yours.

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November 4, 2021 at 01:45
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omg i had a big one experience for this,so it seems like i have my sun in the 12 H of my best friend but we have never had fights,yes we have argue but normal like every friendship it seems like having the sun in their 12 H is a bad indicator because the "Other" perceive you as someone dangerous or simply their enemy,but i truly never had these intentions,i love her with all my heart and also we have a lot of harsh aspects i have 4 planets in virgo and she has in gemini squaring mine, specially his mercury and venus with my sun,venus and mercury and i do never understand that because even tho we are really different we get so much along that i even feel we had some kind of psychic conection,so i think even when theres harsh aspects indicating is a terrible and horrific friendship i do actually believe is also your will to turn the relationship that way, i think both of you probably grow a lot with each other and now are inseparable
October 28, 2021 at 00:42
(Virgo) LotusStar
I think it depends on the planet.

Sun opposite Moon is very complimentary. Even the square brings out nurturing qualities of the Moon.

Hard aspect of a planet like Uranus, Saturn or Pluto... Different story! Then you really see the difference between a trine and square between them.
October 27, 2021 at 18:56
(Scorpio) Angelina
I like challenging aspects in synastry. They are more "tasty" 😁 But it is my Scorpio speaking without doubt.
Overall I think there should be a little bit of this, a little bit of that. Then You are growing together.
October 27, 2021 at 18:42
(Aquarius) Ways_of_Leavin'
You know... I think you have a good point here! Hard aspects are not so "bad" as they are often made out to be..! Personally I don´t get much attracted to people whom I share a lot of easy aspects with (trine, sextile). Sometimes I think hard aspects are even wholly necessary to get a relationship moving, or anything happening in the first place.

You see, hard aspects forces us into action. As they say a lot of trines can make a person lazy. I think as well some friction ups the attraction. BUT - and this is a big but (no, not a big bu*t) - it should much depend on the person´s own natal chart. Meaning a person with a lot of trines may be more attracted to energies/people/situations that are less challenging/challenge you less. People who go for a lot of hard aspects might just be more growth oriented.

Well... I don´t think all hard aspects necessarily are about growth either... And regardless, I would probably avoid "tougher" planets to softest ones - e.g. Saturn hard Moon or Venus, or Chiron (especially)... or maybe also Pluto square Moon for example...

Sometimes though... I think maybe some really "horriful" aspects could be needed by an individual... Such as when old coping methods are not really working - and a person who who really TRIGGERS the person, or does not support his or her "bull..." is needed.

In general I think there should be a balance - some friction there to make attraction greater and getting people more involved, but also some softer or "nicer" ones to make the people involved be more on the same wavelength and understand each other easier; to show sympathy and respect for each other...
October 27, 2021 at 01:57
(Leo) Northerneuropean
I understand you. I have harsh aspects with my best friend. But we are still friends. Sometimes angles, NN and vertex are great helpers. Also house owerlays. Compatible sigs, moon signs. For example, if you have moon trine moon, venus trine sun, saturn trine sun it´s nothing bad if you have sun squere or opposition moon.
That means, your ego is in conflict with others emoyions, but you adore that person, and you understand emoyions, so you have emphaty, so you can´t get angry. If you have saturn trine sun - you don´t like your friend ego expression because of bsd moon aspect, but you have respect of that ego because of good saturn aspect.

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