Cancer Capricor crush - Discussions, questions

jpb2021 » Jaided @Jaided

my birthday is on 16/7 as for hers I don´t know so I guess its hard to get more technical.

Another thing I found recently was that she is not single, at least on her fb she says she is on a relationship since 2013. But the guy doesn´t have a single like on her photos (??) and I couldn´t saw a single expression of affection in there. On the other hand, on gram she shares a lot of pictures of herself on her bedroom where she has a single bed. This is so confusing...

I also wonder if the feeling of confirmation (assuming she saw that message) may cause her to get more relaxed as in "this guy is interested, I don´t have to do much, he will come at me"?


I would really like to be sure of this, specailly in regards to that message. A way of finding out would be to involve another person but from what I saw in the previous comments I don´t think that would be productive or benefitial as for Caps persistance and patience seems to be quite important so asking someone would kind of force things to her which I imaginge wouldn´t help.

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I´ve had an age gap of 8.5 years before, and age isn´t a huge factor for me. I´ve always liked someone at least a little older though. The person I had the Sun/Mars opposition with was close to my age and I felt like he was years behind me. But this was in my teen years. Other than that there´s been a 5 to 8 year age gap.

It sounds like she is studying you from afar, it probably was her if there´s no one else in that area you suspect.

Yes he did have jealous tendencies. Major ones which is what lead to the violence. We were both Capricorn Suns, but our Mars were in opposition, me being the Cap Mars and him the Cancer Mars . So that was not only Mars opposition but an opposition between my Sun and his Cancer Mars. And his Sun and Moon opposing his Mars was a lot to do with his personality, and you don´t have that opposition in your chart. I´m not saying that´s you or her at all, that entirely depends on your whole charts. I was just pointing out that Sun oppositions give that opposites attract/balancing effect together but if one of your Mars opposes the others sun, that CAN cause troubles when it comes to egos and competition etc. But I really wouldn´t be surprised if her Mars was in Cancer. That would be a conjunction to your Sun, so that´s completely opposite of what I mentioned before.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do about this distant connection between the 2 of you.

jpb2021 » Jaided Hi Jaided

Thanks for the help.

One thing I forgot to ask is how do Cap woman handle age gaps? Because I suspect she is around 15y younger than me but she must have noticed right from the start tht I was older than her.

Also, I noticed that a few weeks ago, there was a visit to my Linkedin profile and the person checked in private mode but I was able to see that the person was from the same area of activity as she is which is very uncommon and totally unrelated with my area. I don´t know if it was her or someone on behalf of her but let´s say it was, would that have a relevnt meaning? was an assessment or something like that?

Regarding that experience you had with Cancer, did he had any jealous attacks by any chance?? I use to have that sort of thing while I was younger but with age seemed to fade. What you have to understand is that we don´t know what is going on on the other person´s mind neither we can control someone else´s mind. Some actions can actually trigger those attacks. An example would be something like: I notice that she was constantly likes on some guy posts on social media. That would def create some discomfort in me.
As for getting to violence, I don´t see myself getting violent to a woman unless I had to defend myself. But probably I would have finished the relationship before getting to that point.

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Hi, Capricorn here.
I like a lot of what others already mentioned. I can resonate with a lot of it. If I were her and I had a crush on you (hypothetical you) for this long, all I´d want is for you to just come up and TALK to me already, lol. Capricorns can be pretty discreet when it comes to showing their interest in you so for her to give you all those gazes with no real move back from you, all you really have to do is be yourself, find a way, in person, to start a conversation with her. I have Aquarius in my chart as well so I do like to talk online, but maybe that´s not really her thing especially if she´s actually been dying to talk to you in person for a long time and has thought you aren´t interested. Capricorns work their charms from afar but they aren´t usually the ones to initiate when someone isn´t showing clear interest. I have a Cancer Sun in my life who really is the warmth (and a whole lot of crazy due to other signs) that my Cap sun in 5th needs. My dad and step mom married 20 years are also Cap and Cancer. Just go for it!! Don´t over think it, be yourself because clearly she likes what she sees. I don´t know her houses obviously but with myself and my 5th house in Capricorn I really crave romance and fun a lot but I am rarely the initiator. She needs your warm Cancer energy to break down her Icey Cap walls, lol. Just kidding. I hate the ´Capricorns are cold´ stereotype. We´re one misunderstood sign.
Oh and, I´m guessing you don´t know the rest of her chart beyond her sun sign, but if you do you should check her Mars sign. If it´s in Capricorn like mine, that Sun opposition Mars can be difficult. I dated a Cancer Mars and it was extremely hostile and mean after a while and eventually violent.. Not that I am blaming that all on one aspect but it´s very relatable for me.
If her Mars is in Cancer thats supposed to show what she seeks in a man, partially. It would be interesting if she has Mars in Cancer, that could further explain the strong pull towards you.

Hi RohiniMoon, thanks for thinking of me

rohini moon Jaided is a real Capricorn... she has 4 major planets in cap in sidereal..

Hopefully she can offer some more assistance

pluto°rising More confirmation from another Capricorn female - yes, you will need to make the first move and yes, patience is key.

There is some headstrong energy in the area of control on both sides of the Capricorn / Cancer match, both being Cardinal signs. Worth some research or perhaps someone here can chime in. I´ve had some close personal experiences with Cancer, it´s a smidge tricky but certainly not impossible.

Best wishes!

jpb2021 Thanks all for your advices.

@Luna Alba

I´m totally not a mind games guy, in fact I´m not very good at making things up or lying.

The instagram happened because she has this Personal Trainer account where she puts a lot of stories about her activity (she also puts a lot about food) and some times some things about her. That was how I started to know more of her and consequentelly paying more attention.

A good example of what I mean when say "staring" would be she passing close by and looking straight to me for some moments. But sometimes can also be turnning herself back and then pretending she wasn´t looking.
She had a funny one once: I had finished my workout and was leaving, I passed through the door and she was outside on my right. When she noticed me she kind of shake with a shy giggle and looked straight down. That was touching.

@nutelina

I rather not. She would think she is a second choice. I was looking at someone else then. But I was mindful, I noticed she was looking and I didn´t look back because I had respect for her and didn´t want to send wrong signals.
The other is definitely more attractive but if I could choose now, I would pick the Cap.

@fishcales

I will try to show her real effort and persistance. Also no more messaging on gram, was the first and last. Not acting desperate and not involving other people.

fishscales » jpb2021 I think Luna sums it up pretty well.

I also completely agree with her about avoiding the social media stuff.

Capricorn wants tangibility and real effort.

But obviously, don´t act desperate...I would like to think that no woman likes that, no matter what sign she is.

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Maybe start thinking about what to say to her that you waited 2 years...

Luna Alba » Hellomidnightlovers "My advice is to make the first move. Capricorn can be old school. She is the girl, you have to get her".

Totally agree. Nothing sexier that a man you like (she made it pretty obvious she likes you, if your observations are correct) who genuinely likes you back and is not afraid to pursue you and show his interest.

Be genuine and real. We don´t like mind games. And if you really like her, give her the time to know each other better, if she needs it.
Persistance is, again, quite attractive ;).

Plus, invite her out. I personally don´t like people who would endlessly chat on apps, but won´t meet you that much in real life. It´s like a waste of time

Hellomidnightlovers » jpb2021 My best friend is Capricorn (and her husband is Leo but very cancerian in many ways).
Everything you did is completely fine. My friend is not really into social media, maybe it’s the same for your crush. Nothing’s better than real life interaction.


Capricorn (from my point of view) like to talk about : work, house, cook (not especially food but more the cook making process), roots (family stories)... and what I have seen with many Capricorn is that they are very slow speaker (with silences). If you let the silences blank, it becomes very interesting ! Capricorn will keep talking and getting more and more personal about things they say. Oh and if you talk about your job, they like ambitious and well placed people, but they hate when they brag about it. So say it, but modestly if you are concerned.

My advice is to make the first move. Capricorn can be old school. She is the girl, you have to get her. Don’t wait too long. Life is short and some other men could be faster than you.

jpb2021 » fishscales Hi Fishscales,

Thanks for the tips.

What is funny about this one is that I didn´t got attracted by her looks but rather by things she wrote about herself on Inst. And what really hits me is all the staring and specially for how long it was going on. I guess at some point I couldn´t resist any more

But instead of actually speking to her I did an akward move: I sent her a message on gram and she didn´t replied. I don´t know if she actually saw it / if she knows who I am on Inst / got by surprise, I don´t know.

Are there any "dont´s" I should be aware of by the way?

And it would be nice to see what a Cap woman has to say on this.

fishscales I´m not a Cap, but I am married to one...

Just be yourself. Always the best policy when exploring whether a relationship could work out or not.

Plus, Caps prefer authenticity.

You already have the "opposites attract" factor working for you.

OK, here´s one hint: Caps like people with a practical attitude about things, including relationships. Not that they´re romance averse, but they are looking for that practical, realistic streak in someone. So if you have that, make it a little evident.

I´m not going to say they are so concerned with the partner´s status (as I´ve heard said), because in my experience, that´s not the case. But they are not going to tolerate a lazy person who sits around all day either. You have to have something "going on", or at least a plan, and then proviude clear evidence that that plan is producing concrete results...

Caps aren´t all serious business though...they definitely have a quiet, but powerful sensual side which can be fun to see if the relationship progresses...

In the beginning, maybe try something like food...in the early stages, I seduced my wife by making her stuff to eat

They appreciate the sensual side of food, but also probably find solace in the fact that you can "do" something, ie cook...