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Are we meant to be or should we end it?
March 2, 2021 at 08:07 (UT/GMT)

Are we meant to be or should we end it?
I have been with my man taurus for 4,5 years now. We really fight all the time and it´s a tense relationship because of his children who live with us every second week. They are 15 and 18 and don´t get along at all. The daughter of 18 really hates me and I dont like her either.
My taurus man is extremely stubborn and I think narcissistic and always has to have the last word when we fight. Then he doesnt care if we dont talk for a week. But I have a bad temper and can fight, but after an hour I want to forget and move on like nothing happens. We are so so different!!
But on the good side is the mutual attraction and that we laugh alot when its good and are generous towards eachother, care for eachother and we have the same taste in most things.
Sometimes I´m wondering if anything will change between us, because we fight at least once a week and he is stubborn, and I dont know how much longer i can take it.
He spoils his kids and we dont have the same way of raising children.
Well, i would like to ask you guys outside if the synastry and astrology shows if we are not meant to be, if it will get worse or if we can learn to deal with eachother soon?
My taurus man is extremely stubborn and I think narcissistic and always has to have the last word when we fight. Then he doesnt care if we dont talk for a week. But I have a bad temper and can fight, but after an hour I want to forget and move on like nothing happens. We are so so different!!
But on the good side is the mutual attraction and that we laugh alot when its good and are generous towards eachother, care for eachother and we have the same taste in most things.
Sometimes I´m wondering if anything will change between us, because we fight at least once a week and he is stubborn, and I dont know how much longer i can take it.
He spoils his kids and we dont have the same way of raising children.
Well, i would like to ask you guys outside if the synastry and astrology shows if we are not meant to be, if it will get worse or if we can learn to deal with eachother soon?

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April 10, 2021 at 12:31


April 9, 2021 at 13:45


With your south node being conjunct his Ascendant, it is definitely a karmic relationship so there is a lesson to be learnt here.
I know he is a Taurus and stubborn but he does have libra ascendant and Gemini Moon, maybe trying a more logical approach and clear conversation will help you to get through to him what you want.
Air moon people do not really understand emotional outbursts they see them as irrelevant. You have mercury in Aquarius so before going into a discussion with your Aries moon and defence, try and create a list of points that are logical.
Your mercury is sextile your moon so it should be pretty easy to logicalise your emotions so that he understands.
Also with the spoiling of his kids, he is a Taurus and he also has taurus venus, his love language will probably be gift giving.
You should figure out your love language how you like to give and receive love.
Also try reading a self love book as a lot of arguments in relationships don´t always have a lot to do with the other person but past traumas experienced through other people that are being triggered.
And I know you may not like his daughter, but at the end of the day if this is the man you see yourself spending the rest of your life with, that is his child. Try and look at her venus and moon and see how she bonds with people and connect with her on her terms. I think this would help to heal your own relationship with your partner.
In your composite chart your ascendant is in Scorpio so I can see that this relationship is very intense but your composite venus is conjunct your descendant north node and you also have moon in 7th.
I don´t see this relationship as a failure at all. I think if you just communicate your feelings in a logical way rather than emotional it will help instantly.
Mars is currently transiting your natal 8th house so just have sex and connect haha



April 9, 2021 at 13:27


April 9, 2021 at 13:25

April 5, 2021 at 22:17

And you´re both nearly the same age

April 5, 2021 at 20:29



April 5, 2021 at 19:13

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Perhaps since he is so stubborn, and you love him, try being less stubborn. Just go along with it, let him have the last word
It is a Taurus man you are dealing with after all, and those can be very trustworthy.
Just don´t press their buttons, or you end up getting the horns.

April 5, 2021 at 15:29

I have noticed that posting charts from Astroseek will elicit more astrologically based replies.
The synastry chart of You and Your partner would be helpful.
I hope You can find peace of mind and a resolution to Your situation.
Your chart is interesting with both Sun and Moon at 0 degrees. If You were born a bit earlier those would be different signs.
Interpretation of zero degree Sun sign is interesting.
Signaling a beginning in learning and experiencing the nature of that sign.
It’s regarded as a positive.

April 5, 2021 at 15:05


April 5, 2021 at 14:15

One of the things I´ve learned is if there is an issue in the relationship, this isn´t so much about them, but how you react, how you perceive, and what you believe about relationships. The roots of your own parenting, family generational karma, and how you project it on to them.
I´d look at your own family charts as well to see how these archetypes maybe coming back around for you to learn something personally.
Even if you were to separate, unless you´ve done your inner work, you might just be in the same situation again since you just get a different combination of the same archetypes in relationships until you reach self-mastery of the life lessons.

March 12, 2021 at 20:24

Being okay with not talking for a week is super passive aggressive and immature though... that kind of thing is pretty toxic.
Also, it´s a really bad sign if someone cannot self-reflect and apologize for their own bad behavior or mistake. That is indeed a trait of narcissists, its never their fault and they dont apologize. Is he open to having honest conversations about the dynamics of your relationship? If both people aren´t willing to hear the other person´s point of view and respect their feelings, then I do think it is a waste of time personally.

March 12, 2021 at 13:21

Since they´re not yours, I guess the kids treats you as an mate to their father instead of respecting you as an individual.
Anything you say to them seems mostly invalid, unless it comes from him/father.
You say different approach to raising kids, but those aren´t kids anymore that needs raising, but guiding into adulthood.
If he spoils them than it´s no surprise they rebel against you.
He´s the good guy in their eyes.
And kids probably also know of the fights between you 2
& that makes them think you make their fathers life hard or uncomfortable.
Resulting in more dislike & bad behavior towards you.
If the father took time with his kids to ask them implicitly to respect you & that you were his love of his life etc,
I don´t think it would be this tense. But that´s not the case.
I think you need a deep talk, at a relaxing time like before sleep, and calmly state all your feelings about this.
Kids, behavior, what do about it to improve & future of your relation.
His responses and views should be enough of an answer to continue or break.
And yes I can see you can fight, you got 4 aries in your chart ;)
Chiron aries, shows that you are often misunderstood and needing to explain over & over what you meant. Since it´s in aries you do it in direct and fiery manner.
Even if you calm down fast maybe even in minutes, that fire was quite hot to leave the other scorching.
Taurus man doesn´t calm down as fast, and can´t get heat up that fast.
That´s why he gets the last word in. They approach it as tanks, they plant their feet, and stability is everything to taurus, they don´t get knocked over easy.
But they are sensual humorous funny & companionable with dinners & family settings.
If he is like that with you one on one, but not when his kids are around, then that´s not good in improving the image of you as couple.
You need to evaluate if these circumstances are worth the good side you have, and that your talk with him shows that fights will less occur & the good side improves.
If it doesn´t seem like it for the near future, and your talks with him, doesn´t show any sign or any plans to improve on it.
Then you have your answer that you no longer have a place there.
Since you mentioned different way of raising kids, if you still want own kids then it´s clear to walk away to find someone more suitable to raise them together with.
As having your own kids, with this man, will only result in more family drama with his current kids, your arguments, and turbulent childhood your own kid gets born to. Breaking up then will result in no father figure, and all kind of mess for the child. You don´t want that.
Maybe I´m stipulating to much on if youwanted your own, but that´s an consequence you need to be aware of down the line.
Good luck hope you find your answer, and able to make good decisions
Life is too short to spend it in misery ;)
Take care Cheers

March 2, 2021 at 14:31

SunTrineJupiter3°21’
SunConjunctionSaturn3°45’
MoonSextileMercury2°15’
MoonTrinePluto6°02’
VenusSquareJupiter1°26’
JupiterTrineSaturn0°23’
UranusSextileNeptune1°42’
UranusConjunctionPluto2°55’
Other aspects:
ObjectAspectPlanetOrb
AscendantOppositionVenus0°17’
AscendantSquareJupiter1°09’
MCSquareMoon5°39’
MCSextileMars0°09’
NodeConjunctionMoon4°19’
NodeSextileMercury2°03’
S.NodeOppositionMoon4°19’
S.NodeTrineMercury2°03’
LilithConjunctionSun3°05’
ChironOppositionUranus4°09’
ChironTrineNeptune2°26’


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