I’m forced into a marriage ?

February 10, 2021 at 20:36 (UT/GMT)
(Taurus) Rebellarina
I’m forced into a marriage ?
Hello guys,
Long story short,
my parents and relatives arranged me a marriage from a guy who’s older than me by +11 yrs AND he lives abroad so I didn’t even see him in person, I’ve refused him so many times but I couldn’t change my fate.
I’m thinking of escaping the country even though it will put me under the risk of death. Still can’t stop thinking of leaving everyone and everything and start over.
It’s an emergency question to me😔 does anyone have an idea if I will be able to escaand live alone? Will I regret? Will i succeed ? Will I surrender and get married? I’m so much concerned I can’t even rest an eye please help 💕

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September 28, 2021 at 12:12
(Capricorn) Occupier » Rebellarina
I am sorry to hear that, this is so bad. I hope you are doing well. Did you manage to avoided the marriage?
February 15, 2021 at 05:57
(Taurus) Rebellarina » windinthetrees
I was thinking about the same thing but it might be risky as hell .. asking for a divorce in the middle east might bring me troubles too so I’m choosing between fire and fire. Thank you so much for your reading and your previous advice honey
February 15, 2021 at 01:07
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I began looking at your chart without your question or problem with an arranged marriage. I see the ruler of your Virgo Rising in your 8th house conjunct Saturn. Mercury also rules your MC or career. You mentioned being in pharmacy college and it seems that with transiting Uranus going into your 9th house continuing college or otherwise paying attention to your education might be a good idea. Pharmacy is the new Alchemy... 8th house stuff. Your chart is cohesive for having a career.

Will your fiance let you continue school, will he let you work in your chosen profession? How else can you continue your schooling. You have a bright and disciplined mind.

Just a thought (throw it away if you don´t like it). What if you had a legal contract drawn up saying that you will be allowed to go to school and work and this could be the condition you present your fiance, you would marry him willingly only if he signed. He does have his Jupiter conjunct your MC. Otherwise you would have to take his word for it. If you chose to willingly marry him with these conditions maybe he would be happier too and treat you better. After all arranged marriages are usually about practically in some way.

Obviously if you did this and it was not where you wanted to stay, you could divorce later. See it has a practical matter, if nothing else comes up to get you your freedom.
February 14, 2021 at 07:22
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If his birthday is Sept 19,1988, I see a big problem. Long story short, your reputation will be expanded as will your families power (His :156: conjunct your MC and oppossed your :160:). However I don´t see any real good for you and lots of pain in this marriage. Obviously I could be wrong.

His Mars falls in your 7th conjunct your Venus, but his Chiron squares this as does his Neptune. So he has a T-Square with Neptune oppossed Chiron square his Mars in Aries, so I can see some of the dynamic he is dealing with (but Im not assisting him) and this dynamic will hurt you. This T-Square is actully a grand cross as his True Black Moon :163: is opposed his :155: ( :194: :159: :164:) close in orb so a major thing for him. His Mars is :196: your Mars/Sun and his Pluto opposed your Mars/Sun conjunction. These are not close aspects but will cause friction. Also your Mercury is very closely opposed his Mercury and these both :196: your MC and his Jupiter. Endless talk/thinking about how good he will be for you.

His Mars is retrograde in Aries and conjunct his Eris (by about nine degrees). In about one year his SolarArc :161: (of Moon) will conjunct his Eris. His natal Mean Black Moon :163: is :191: his natal :162:. His unconscious is very aware of whether he belongs or not. When his SolarArc NorthNode contacts Eris he may do whatever it takes to feel like he belongs. At about this time his SolarArc Mars is opposing his natal Pluto. He could become violent and supported by his culture. Right now his Secondary Progressed Mars is conjunct the Vernal Point and will be exactly so in about 2 years. I have a feeling this adds to the problem.

He has a close T-Square with Virgo Sun opposed Pisces Ceres squared to a conjuncture of Saturn and Uranus in Sagitarius. His Pluto in Scorpio semi-squares all of this. He has some kind of power trip going on here. He could possibly use this wisely and be some kind of engineer or mathamatician but without his birth time we don´t know what houses this affects. Your Uranus in Aquarius squares his Pluto and semi-squares the rest. You do not want to have any of this.

Now the good stuff. In several months Transiting Uranus will enter your ninth house and stay there for about 7 years. During this time it will contact your Sun/Mars. This will help you to broaden your horizons and free your belief systems. Also in a few years your SolarArc Mars/Sun from the 10th house will trine your Uranus in the 6th. A lot of freedom.

In just a few months Transiting Saturn will conjunct your Uranus in the 6th house. I personally have Uranus in my 6th house. And I can say I am not a 9-5 worker, lots of unpredictablity and freedom in the way I do my daily life and my health care. But... If you are needing a way to survive on your own, you may need to hold down a job, and with Saturn conjuncting Uranus there, maybe that can give you some structure, you may need to do a job you don´t care for. Your Uranus is square your Chiron in the 3rd, so Saturn will square that a little later too.

This could also have something to do with you being in hiding. Saturn is currently sextile your Pluto. Pluto is in the basement (conjunct IC). You may literally have to do something like this to escape. I see two indicators. The Saturn transit to Uranus and Chiron as Chiron in the 3rd of moving about and communication would be limited by Saturn. And Uranus in 6th house of daily activity is limited. Jupiter by transit will also be in your 6th for about a year helping out here.

And SolarArc Chiron conjunct Pluto. Chiron is the crisis or wound but also the healing but healing takes time. Your whole Sun/Mars opposed Chiron square to Uranus is being set off for a number of years. Sedna is in the picture as it is conjunct your Sun/Mars. It will through SolarArc conjunct your MC is less than a year. You may feel like your have sacrificed your reputation and standing in the world. You could feel like this if you married him or if you don´t and ´escape´.

I once had transiting Pluto opposed transiting Saturn semi-square my Ascendent while Secondary Progressed retrograde Chiron was headed for my 12th house while transiting Sedna ran back and forth over my IC (after it had throughly opposed my Saturn semi-squaring my Mars). Also in many forms of direction/progression there was a ´challenging´ Saturn to Mars aspect. And secondary progressed :122:Mars (opposing secondary progressed Chiron) headed for my 7th house. I had a difficult birth and I think this may have been worse! It certainly lasted a lot longer. I wish someone had been there to warn me away from the wrong person. I barely made it.

Trust your instinct, you have talked with him. You know what you want for yourself. He may try to sweet talk you. Use your discernment.
February 14, 2021 at 05:46
(Taurus) Rebellarina » MagentaP
You’re sweet honey ❤️ ty
February 14, 2021 at 05:44
(Taurus) Rebellarina » windinthetrees
Yes that what I’ve been told, then I got the chance to talk to him and ask him about his birth date and he said 1988, he was born in Syria, Hamah.
February 14, 2021 at 02:21
(Taurus) Astro-Seek.com » Rebellarina
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You mentioned earlier that he was 11 years older than you. Do you mean his birthday is Sept 19, 1988? You say 1998 here. Also what is his place of birth, if you know it.
February 13, 2021 at 17:00
(Sagittarius) MagentaP
:79: :80:...i am only a learner of astrology, but feel for your story so wanted to send :79: :80: :17: :74: :68:....
February 12, 2021 at 19:52
(Taurus) Rebellarina » Datta108
Yes illbe able to contact them. Hopefully
February 12, 2021 at 19:48
(Capricorn) Datta108 » Rebellarina
That´s just my gut instinct, I could be mistaken..
Will you have access to your friends and family if you do marry him?? Or are you in eminent danger if you do??
February 12, 2021 at 19:41
(Taurus) Rebellarina » Datta108
Umm I don’t think I can afford that 😅 but thanks for the prediction I had a feeling he’s a manipulative liar and now you kinda addressed it
February 12, 2021 at 19:37
(Capricorn) Datta108 » Rebellarina
Having Rahu and Moon by itself is not giving me the best feeling, plus 2 more planets in dominating Leo could be unpleasant (to say the least),do you have money to get your charts MATCHED by a professional vedic astrologer?? Because imo that´s the only way I can definitely tell if this guy is dangerous
February 12, 2021 at 19:19
(Taurus) Rebellarina » Datta108
I think he’s mentally unstable indeed and probably insecure and simple. Can you please tell me if there’s an indication of abusive attitude? It’s my major concern because it’s a common thing to experience domestic abuse especially first few months after marriage 😔 yes unbelievable but it’s how dominance of men manifests in Middle East
February 12, 2021 at 19:16
(Taurus) Rebellarina » amandaallansson
We’re not married yet honey it’s just an engagement and I guess the marriage is in 5 months from now 😔 also in arab region the law is by the men’s side i need a very good reason to divorce
February 12, 2021 at 19:09
(Capricorn) Datta108
Namaste, I agree with the other poster,any decision will bring stress,tensions frustration etc but you are young and can definitely get thru this very challenging period.
Lookin at his chart using vedic astrology, he has Saturn and Mars debilitated AND possibly Moon with Rahu in Leo(with 2 more planets,meaning an imbalance) which imo don´t seem conducive to getting married.Imo Arrange marriage will only work if the two parties both are willing AND thier charts are MATCHED to see if there is long term compatibility and longevity in mutual agreement with each other🙏
February 12, 2021 at 18:58
(Scorpio) amandaallansson » Rebellarina
Can you file a divorce on your own or do you also need your husbands permission? If you can file a divorce then plan the escape already now.

If it helps I had experience someone born on the same date as your next husband, not the same year but 19th of September which is the sign of Virgo. They can be quite stubborn, wanting things to be a certain way to reach perfectionism. So you are prepared. But unless you have his exact birth time ofc it´s hard to describe a person in every detail
February 12, 2021 at 18:48
(Taurus) Rebellarina » windinthetrees
Thank you darling. I’m definitely having hard time dealing with every single relative of mine
His birth date is 19th of Sep 1998 as he mentioned today
He’s promising me freedom and independence after marriage BUT he asked me to cover up and change the way I dress in the very first call 🤔 I think he’s a liar or he’s just selling me words to get my acceptance
It’s really hard to get out the syrian land
I’m thinking of divorcing him after marriage bcus it’s the only safe way to go out of here
Any thoughts?
February 12, 2021 at 08:41
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You likely have a challenging time ahead no matter what you choose. If you decide to marry him, do you think he would not be angry with you or abuse you? You have told him repeatedly you don´t want to marry him. If you do just because you feel you have no choice, he may take it out on you. You are young, strong and wanting to be independent. Your whole life is in front of you. It is too bad we do not have his chart.

If you think you are in more danger by not marrying him and starting your life over, I am wondering if you did marry him what is the possibility of you being able to leave him later? You may need to follow your intuition to keep yourself safe.

I see a challenge for you no matter what you decide. There is a lot of pressure on you. Solar Arc Chiron is currently conjunct your Pluto and in several years will conjunct your IC. There is a lot of wounding at your core and with family issues. Pluto does trine your 7th house Venus so people may just be doing what the culture has imposed on them.

Solar Arc Directed Uranus will conjunct your Descendent in about 5 years. If you do not have some degree of freedom and independence in your relationships before then, this likely will be an indicator.

Does anyone see indicators of outside assistence? Without an embassy there I don´t know what type of agency could help.
February 11, 2021 at 18:18
(Scorpio) amandaallansson
If you have a feeling he will control you or abuse you in some way you should definitely try to find a way to escape. Try to find a temporary place outside of your city/town and find a job there until you can get to Lebanon.
February 11, 2021 at 18:02
(Taurus) nutelina » Rebellarina
Well depends, many young people in Spain for example are without work for years. But everything should be planned in advance so that you are gone and onto a good start somewhere else. :15:

Maybe an idea is study abroad... Esp. if you are a refugee, I know the Netherlands could be a good place. Or Germany.
February 11, 2021 at 12:59
(Libra) leorising
Look I know it is a situation that seems hopeless. but I imagine that your life outside that marriage can be much worse. in my country it is said to be liberal, but the only way of life for women is linked to marriage, unfortunately outside it is only illusion with tragedies and abuses. try to meet your fiance, love can come with time. :108:
I also have jupiter in pisces, your husband must not be bad, he must be someone who is spiritual, calm, full of love like a goldfish. :108:
now in May we already have an appetizer of this return of jupiter, next year will be a year of many blessings for us. :108:
February 11, 2021 at 12:57
(Taurus) Astro-Seek.com » Rebellarina
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You´re welcome, and being that 9th house Taurus Sun-Mars, I´m pretty sure you´ll find the way to solve this situation.

Pars Fortuna (spot of inevitable destiny and good fortune) is in conjunction with your rebellious Uranus, so you sure keep trying but 6th house way - safely :15:
February 11, 2021 at 12:27
(Taurus) Rebellarina » nutelina
No I’m still undergraduated but I’m an adult ofv ill be able to take care of myself once I’m out.
February 11, 2021 at 12:22
(Taurus) Rebellarina » Moon_Queen
In syria there’s no foreign embassies right now, otherwise I would have applied for asylum.
I’m currently looking for any organization that could help but so far I found no possible way other than smuggling to Lebanon. Which will cost a lot

My parents got married very traditionally and couldn’t divorce afterwards bcuz they fear relatives too.

And yes you’re right the groom said he could visit to marry me in June or July. But if not, I’ll be sent yo him.

Your analysis is 99.8% correct
Thank you so much
February 11, 2021 at 09:50
(Taurus) nutelina
Question is if you can take care of yourself and get a good job. Is your education up to it or do you have to study still?
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