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Jun 2, 2020 - 16:09
Sun Sign - GeminiSSSSireen » modestmoon
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Jun 2, 2020 - 13:56
Sun Sign - Piscesfishscales » modestmoon
I was a penguin too...

It fits...

I was torn on one question though...

The one about confrontation... I can really swing to either end of the spectrum with that, with not alot of middle ground...most of the time I try to avoid confrontation... But about certain things I will actively pursue it...and when I do, it´s usually with a no holds barred attitude...

If I changed the answer to the confrontation question, I would have been a badger...
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Sep 29, 2019 - 16:42
Synastry & Relationship: Trouble communicating
Sun Sign - TaurusAstro-Seek.com » modestmoon
You are most welcome, :1:

And I totally understand about the busy schedule. But for the sake of the kid, it is very important that you do squeeze in the time to work on yourself.

I thought you two were just bf and gf. But if you have a daughter with him, and are under the same roof, then that´s a marriage for all practical purposes. So now it is even more important that you two can handle your issues.

I wish you the best. If you need anything I am just a message away.

Take care, :-). :29:
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Sep 29, 2019 - 04:30
Sun Sign - AquariusLeo Moon » modestmoon
That was cool. Here is Beck before he was famous.
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Sep 29, 2019 - 03:24
Synastry & Relationship: Trouble communicating
Sun Sign - TaurusAstro-Seek.com » modestmoon
"Ah, I also wanted to say that I think writing things down like you suggested is a really good idea. ? It would definitely help bring some clarity."

Yes, it definitely would! :1: It would help you both to "pinpoint" the exact issues to address.
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Sep 29, 2019 - 03:21
Synastry & Relationship: Trouble communicating
Sun Sign - TaurusAstro-Seek.com » modestmoon
"Thank you! This is very spot on. I appreciate it."

Always me pleasure! :-)

"The past life thing you mentioned is very interesting. There was a very strong attraction from the beginning, but also tension and misunderstanding too."

The North Node trine the Moon and the South Node sextile the Moon (which happens both ways, btw), usually create an immediate attraction/connection. It is as if the souls can recognize each other even in other bodies. But it seems you two have unresolved issues from the past.

"It´s always been very loving, but like I said, can feel quite tense at times."

I totally understand.

"I also wanted to mention something he says a lot, when something is very clearly on his mind is that he can´t talk about it, because he can´t explain it.He says his thoughts are always too cloudy or too quick and it´s hard for him to hang onto them and focus."

That´s his Sun in Pisces in the 12th conjunct Mercury. The 12th house - among many other things - is about the Subconscious and the world of ideas; particularly those ideas that are sort of buried. It is the house of isolation; it hides things from our consciousness. Then Mercury (our thinking process, our mind) is there in the 12th being "burnt" by the Sun, which is also hidden in the 12th. This confuses the thinking process of the individual.

Then from that hidden and isolated 12th house, his Mercury is square (a challenging aspect/connection) Chiron (our basic wounds in life) in his 3rd house (communications). See the relationship/dynamic? He is going to feel as if he can´t talk about what he is feeling and thinking. He might not even understand his own personality (the Sun) as his Sun is being hidden in the 12th house.

"And as for me, I don´t have a hard time with that, but what I do struggle with is actually verbalizing. Like, I know what´s bothering me but it´s hard to talk about how I´m really feeling. It feels uncomfortable."

I understand. The Moon is feelings/emotions and is in Virgo. So even though the Moon is in the 12th, this Virgo Moon is very "analytical". But the nature of the 12th house, create this difficulty for you. Also, generally speaking, it is not easy for Cancer Suns to express their emotions; especially when they are upset. That´s why the crab is the symbol for Cancer. Because when they feel threatened or hurt, they tend to shy away and want to "hide" inside the shell.

"As far as anger..it´s hard to deal with too. When someone is angry it´s also very uncomfortable."

That´s the nature of being a Cancer Sun. Cancer individuals are very sensitive to anger.

"I don´t know what to do, and sometimes I feel like I need to fix it, to make it go away."

I understand. Sometimes it is just better to have some space to cool off first before discussing the matter. That would be a great practice for you two, with your kind of placements (from both).

"And when he´s upset or angry, it can make me feel like that too, even if I was fine before."

Of course; that´s also the nature of Cancer.

"Sorry, I´ve blathered on lol."

Haha; that´s ok, :-)). I understood you perfectly, :-).

"Again, thank you."

Sure; anytime! :-)
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Sep 29, 2019 - 01:57
Synastry & Relationship: Trouble communicating
Sun Sign - AquariusLeo Moon » modestmoon
Davis knows what he is about. Consider it.

I would add that it is the type of relationship that can be deep and long lived if You two are willing to put in the work to establish it.

All good things require effort and energy.
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Sep 29, 2019 - 01:50
Synastry & Relationship: Trouble communicating
Sun Sign - TaurusAstro-Seek.com » modestmoon
You see, THIS is the kind of post I love. Someone who ACTUALLY wants to do something about her relationship, and who tell us WHAT is happening. I just love this kind of initiative.

Your synastry with him is a little complicated; not impossible, but complicated. Why? Well, for one thing, you have 10 connections to the North Node - which immediately mean 10 connections to the South Node (the past). That many connections can only mean one thing: you´ve known each other in past lives. The good thing is, that 7 out of those 10 connections are good aspects. Moon trine the North Node (and sextile the South Node), Both ways, support the interpretation of a past life connection.

For another thing - besides that Moon/Nodes good aspects - the synastry aspects with the Moon are hard ones. Also the Venus and the Mars aspects:

1. Moon square Uranus
2. Moon square Neptune
3. Moon opposite Uranus
4. Mars opposite Sun
5. Square Uranus
6. Mars square Neptune
7. Venus square Uranus
8. Venus square Neptune

Then:

1. Pluto conjunct Saturn - one that feels very heavy and frustrating.

2. Saturn square Mars - one that causes many arguments and frustrations.

All of the above is indicative of a past life relationship gone bad, where many businesses were left unfinished. But the fact that most of the connections to the Nodes are good aspects, means that it was also a very loving and fulfilling relationship.

Also the synastry have 10 aspects to Chiron; 7 of them being good aspects. So this means that this relationship - as frustrating as it may seem - can offer you two the opportunity to heal your particular wounds in love.

As to the arguments and fights (and not talking about it):

1. Your Descendant is in Aries. Aries is ruled by Mars, and he is in your 12th in Virgo, where Mars is "debilitated" as he is in the sign of his "enemy" (Mercury). Mars in the 12th can activate many subsconcious issues and can react badly. Having Mars as the ruler of the 7th and in the 12th, can "attract" anger from your partners. But it count also become a combination that gives you an individual who pushes you (Mars) to succeed and towards spirituality (12th house)

2. You also have Moon in the 12th house in Virgo. The Moon in the 12th can manifest many subsconcious issues, and can also create self-undoing and self-sabotage habits. Luckily, 3 out of its 4 aspects,are good ones.

3. You are a Cancer Sun, and one lower manifestation of that placement is moodiness. This is a well know astrological fact.

4. Saturn is opposite Mars in the 12th. This can be a difficult aspect that can activate anger issues. This is the aspect that you need to work on the most. Read all you can about it.

5. Then you have Pluto in Scorpio in the 2nd opposite Venus in the 8th in Taurus. This can create a tendency to want to dominate in relationships. Perhaps even to manipulate.

His own chart:

1. He is an Aries Asc - that all by itself can create a bad temper. Then Mars is conjunct his Asc and conjunct the Moon in Aries = a VERY bad temper!! Then Mars is also conjunct Venus which can be very sexually attractive and make one very passionate in love, but can also manifest as anger issues in relationships.

2. Then he has his Sun in Pisces in the 12th which can manifest as a tendency towards self-sabotage and self-undoing patterns of conduct. And Mercury is also in the 12th square Chiron (wounds) in the 3rd (communications).

3. Then from the 3rd (communications) Chiron is opposite Saturn in the 8th, which can manifest - though that is a sort of a "generational aspect" as well - as restrictions and challenges in our communication. We can say the wrong things at the wrong time.

So as you can see, you BOTH have many challenging aspects regarding communication and anger issues in your independent charts. Then in the synastry those issues are also manifested as synastry aspects. See? The situation is not an easy one at all! You have many, many challenges to conquer ahead. Your 12th house placements is not allowing communication to flow.

I know that everything I have described/discussed above seems kind of scary and even hopeless; but the fact that you two (I am assuming he is trying as well; is he?) are trying, means that there is a solution to this. But it starts by you BOTH being willing to just sit down and TALK things out, without recriminations and fault-finding.

1. Write a list of ALL the things you both agree on.

2. Write a list of all the things you two disagree about.

3. From list two, isolate the exact disagreement in each case. The exact disagreement would be a specific action or a specific belief about something.

4. Share both your lists with each other and discuss them without keeping anything to yourself. You both MUST be willing to communicate everything you feel and think.

If you BOTH are willing to do something about it and to face your own particular issues, then I am very much willing to help you to salvage your relationship. Just let me know.
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Sep 28, 2019 - 23:49
Synastry & Relationship: Trouble communicating
Sun Sign - AquariusLeo Moon » modestmoon
I notice that even though You have a Cancer Sun Your signature sign is Capricorn.

Plus You have an Earth Grand Trine.


His Sun may be Pisces, but his signature sign is Aries. His dominant planet is Mars which is in Aries in his first house.
That is a lot of fiery and aggressive energy.

A Goat and a Ram banging heads. Both stubborn signs.

So it isn´t the Cancer, Pisces dynamic I thought it would be.

Capricorn and Aries can get along but both have to be willing to give a bit.

That is what I see at first look.
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Jul 25, 2019 - 03:53
Natal Astrology: My daughter´s chart.
Sun Sign - LeoHeavenSent » modestmoon
Aww, that´s adorable!


It sounds like she´s only a baby -- may I ask how old your little sweetie is?


Another thing to note: Taurus people just hate to be pressured or rushed. It brings out their "worst" qualities. Keep that in mind for when she´s a toddler (if that still lies ahead)... You may be able to avoid meltdowns if you remember that you need to give her ample time to think about things and make up her own mind, ample time to eat, ample time to get dressed... Does music soothe her? I´d be surprised if she doesn´t have a real affinity for it. I definitely recommend music lessons, and a pet or two, when she´s old enough. (With all that VI House influence, she´ll be a model pet owner -- nurturing and responsible.)


From our thread here, I´ve been realizing how much I´m enjoying doing "baby" astrology... Hmm... Maybe I should offer this niche service IRL!

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Jul 21, 2019 - 06:49
Natal Astrology: My daughter´s chart.
Sun Sign - LeoHeavenSent » modestmoon
~One more thought for You~


As a Taurus Ascendant, with her Chart Ruler in VI, one of the best ways you can nurture her is to set up a simple daily ritual of loving nurturance for her...

For Taurus, peaceful routine = emotional security. And, House VI, where her Ruler Venus resides, is all about every day routine. So, ritual and routine are extra important to her.


So, something like having a favorite Beatrix Potter bowl with her same favorite breakfast food every morning...

Or a pretty song to sing together every night at bedtime... Or a comforting bedtime prayer.

Or set aside time once every week to work on a little gardening project...

Or bake cookies (or explore various recipes) for and with her once a week...

Or if your life/schedule is too hectic for that, keep a supply of her favorite cookies in the cupboard, and dispense one at snack time (with a healthy tangerine, maybe) every day.


That kind of thing... Something she can rely on, that becomes a familiar and comfortable habit.



P.S. But note that Jupiter in VI sometimes brings overeating / weight issues (and Taurus is fond of eating (and cooking) :)), so be mindful of that, and maybe create comforting daily routines that don´t necessarily involve "fattening" food - your call, Mom!




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Jul 21, 2019 - 06:26
Natal Astrology: My daughter´s chart.
Sun Sign - LeoHeavenSent » modestmoon
That´s a good question.

With a Libra Sun and a Taurus Ascendant, I´m inclined to say no... These signs are known to enjoy self-indulgence... and can even have trouble with self-discipline... But this contrasts radically with her hard-working VI House stellium side... I think she´ll always have some inner conflict between those influences and a bit of a self-indulgent (Taurus) and even "lazy" (Libra) nature. These conflicts will be minor, just an internal debate, most likely.

She has a strong and healthy Saturn, nicely positioned in Dominium. Saturn is a planet that, when challenged, can undermine self-confidence, and can bring isolation and major obstacles. I don´t see any of those problems here.

With her Sun conjunct Pluto, she is likely to have a thread of power struggles running through her life. Perhaps as a toddler, she had/has pretty powerful tantrums?

And with Mercury, Moon and Jupiter in Scorpio, power is important to her. It´s something that may preoccupy her at times.

She´s very likely to become an "invisible" power player, wielding significant power behind the scenes... With her VI House Stellium, she is a diligent detail person, and prone to being a worrier and high-strung.

And with Virgo ruling her House V, letting her hair down does not came naturally to her. She may benefit from literally being taught how to play, how to be silly, and child-like. Animals might help. A petting zoo might be a good place for her to have fun. With her Taurus Ascendant, pretty gardens, pretty playgrounds, and bucolic environments would be healthy and calming for her. Music and song (and music therapy) will be really good for her, too. As would learning to play a musical instrument.

Hope that was helpful!

For more of an in-depth analysis, including progressed chart readings, etc., best to make an appointment with a professional astrologer.
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Jul 20, 2019 - 00:58
Natal Astrology: My daughter´s chart.
Sun Sign - LeoHeavenSent » modestmoon
I note her Moon is conjunct the VII cusp, and sextile Pluto in IX, and also positively aspecting Uranus in XI. With this, and her strong career aspects, she will rise past typical VI House obstacles and self-doubt, to a position of importance.

As she grows older, she will be prone to "workaholism," and at risk for work-related exhaustion, and burnout. Watch for that. And teach her to watch for that. Instill in her the value of down time, play, rest and relaxation. She´ll need that balance!

A VII House Moon can sometimes mean enmeshment with the mother. Your daughter doesn´t have a Moon in VII, but I mention this because it is cusping VII, and bc you are a Cancer Sun. So, do try to be mindful of possible enmeshment issues... But again, with her stellium in VI, I´d recommend erring on the side of more, rather than less, nurturance (which you will need to initiate - she won´t ask for it). I think you and your daughter are far more likely to have a healthy super close relationship!
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Jul 20, 2019 - 00:44
Natal Astrology: My daughter´s chart.
Sun Sign - LeoHeavenSent » modestmoon
Aww, Bless You. You´re a wonderful mother.
She definitely needs that -- and she´ll still need cuddles when she´s all grown up!

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Jul 20, 2019 - 00:33
Natal Astrology: My daughter´s chart.
Sun Sign - LeoHeavenSent » modestmoon
With a stellium in VI, she is / will be a hard worker.
She has great career prospects.
She will benefit from diligently apprenticing under a master in her field.
She´ll be inclined towards volunteerism and service to others.
Sixth House Suns tend to feel neglected or somewhat unseen by their parent(s); they are prone to playing the role of the family underdog... the child who has to work extra hard for parental approval. This is a hardship for a VI House Sun child. Knowing this, give her extra love and nurturance, always.
Stellium in VI sometimes means health issues. But only if this is a larger chart theme. I don´t see a compromised Saturn, nor health issues, at a glance.
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Aug 10, 2018 - 05:16
General Astrology: anxiety about my baby
Sun Sign - Cancerdetectahead » modestmoon
This is all because of saturn in the 5th natally which creates a natural fear within the native just as modestmoon has described. What´s also said about a 5th House Saturn is that you won’t have children or you won’t like children.Plenty of loving parents have a 5th House Saturn. Saturn is what makes us worry and kids really worry you and freak you out. It comes from having never been a total kid yourself. So, you don’t understand why these little people have to be so loud and restless and uninhibited. Most children worry about very little and that worries you. They run everywhere, they can’t stop jumping on furniture, they can’t stop talking, they can’t stop singing those silly songs! It can be enough to give you a headache but it does not mean that you hate kids.

We can discover that we’re really skilled in this area of life. So, you actually can be very good with children. You just have to overcome your insecurities around them. A big part of this is also the fact that you worry about screwing up as a parent. This is what can cause delays in parenting because you’re convinced you’re going to fail and end up raising some messed-up kid who needs a lifetime of therapy. The fact that you aren’t exactly effortless with children doesn’t help you, in this regard. You can also somehow be haunted by children. Their carefree, unrestricted nature only reminds you of how restricted you felt as a child and it can bring up a lot of sadness you don’t want to deal with.
This is why you not only learn a lot by being a parent but you can actually learn a lot from children. They end up being your wise teachers because they show you how to let go.
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Aug 9, 2018 - 17:44
General Astrology: anxiety about my baby
Sun Sign - TaurusAstro-Seek.com » modestmoon
i agree with adept about the moon squaring node. you need to learn, in this life, nurturing and motherhood. the square brings an urgency or anxiety hence these existing feelings as motherhood approaches.

i dont see anything in the natal or even transit regarding difficulties in child birth (5th house), but thats my opinion, i find it immoral to say it is for certain.

your 5th house ruler goes into the 6th house. meaning, children and their upbringing will require hard work on a day to day basis (6th house) but will bring you long term satisfaction and stability.

meditate on matthew 11:28-30

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Jun 30, 2018 - 11:28
General Astrology: anxiety about my baby
Sun Sign - TaurusAstro-Seek.com » modestmoon
The North Node is the main cause of any obsession, and you have yours squaring your natal Moon in the 12th house.

The 12th house being representative of hidden enemies, self undoing etc., and the Moon being your mind as well as your motherly instincts, I would say this might very well cause you to worry unnecessarily and neuroticly. Actually, with this in mind, I might conclude that you are a worryer in general..
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Jun 29, 2018 - 22:07
General Astrology: anxiety about my baby
Sun Sign - Ariesastro-flame » modestmoon
Our emotions are shown by the Moon (also our motherhood) and yours is in Virgo, 12th house - house of fears and unknown things. Virgo also adds to this, out of all earth signs it´s the most agitated one. Just try to relax, meditate (the positive expressions of the 12th house), find the time to be alone and listen to your body and the baby. You can try to tap into your intuitive channel and communicate with the baby not by words but by "feeling" that the baby is all right (Pisces theme)
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Jun 21, 2018 - 21:27
General Astrology: anxiety about my baby
Sun Sign - TaurusAstro-Seek.com » modestmoon
I assume you are healthy person with no genetical issues or sicknesses in the family. With that in my mind, it is unlikely for you to have a disabled child, unless you smoke, drink alcohol or take drugs during pregnancy. You have nothing to worry about, hopefully.
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