Synastry Is Confusing

March 22, 2021 at 20:29 (UT/GMT)
(Taurus) Marcel1459
Synastry Is Confusing
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* Question 1 : What is the concept of synastry ?

A-is it planets of partner in my birth chart houses (and vice versa)

B-is it planets of partner and my planets signs / elements placements (regardless of houses)


* Question 2 : What defines the relationship with a person ?

A- is it the house placement of the stellium of this person in my birth chart
B- is it the sun house placement of the person in my birth chart
C- is it the ascendant cusp house placement of this person in my birth chart
D- is it the ascendant lord house placement of this person in my birth chart

* Question 3 : Which aspect is "stronger" and more "binding" (regardless of the planets involved) ?

A- Opposition > Conjunction > Trine > Sextile
B- Opposition > Trine > Sextile > Conjunction
C- Conjunction > Opposition > Trine > Sextile
D- Conjunction > Trine > Sextile > Opposition
E- Trine > Sextile > Conjunction > Opposition
F- Trine > Sextile > Opposition > Conjunction

* Question 4 : Which aspect have more "weight" ?

A- Same Planet (Sun/Sun, Moon/Moon, Ascendant/Ascendant, Venus/Venus etc.)
B- Interchanged Planet (Sun/Moon, Sun/Ascendant, Moon/ Ascendant,Sun/Venus, Moon/Venus etc.)

Example 1 :

person A [main] : Sun Taurus , Moon Leo , Ascendant Virgo

person B : Sun Taurus , Moon Leo , Ascendant Pisces
person C : Sun Scorpio , Moon Aquarius, Ascendant Virgo
person D : Sun Scorpio , Moon Aquarius, Ascendant Pisces
person E : Sun Leo, Moon Taurus, Ascendant Virgo
person F : Sun Capricorn, Moon Sagittarius, Ascendant Virgo


who is the most compatible person to person A ?

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March 23, 2021 at 03:03
(Capricorn) LearningForever
I am pretty confident in light of 30 years long interest in astrology, but I am learning forever so I never consider myself an ultimate expert on anything.

Answer to question 1: Placement of yours and partner´s planets in houses is definitely more important than placement in the signs of Zodiac. Elements balance plays secondary role and is actually a controversial topic.

Question 2: There is no definite marker of a significant relationship. You may have great set of conjunctions with someone and never really click, or you may have mostly squares with someone and still form a life-long friendship. A lot of it depends on the individual charts dynamics, the transits and the maturity and self-awareness of people involved.

A. Astrologers are divided on the subject whether the planets person impacts the house person more or the other way round. Based on my experience, I can clearly see the impact of someone´s planets because of their placement in my houses. I tend to like/love/desire/be amused by someone with important or many planets in my 5th house, enter into important dealings with someone´s planets in my 7th house, collaborate successfully with someone whose planets are in my 10th house, feel encouraged by someone whose Sun, Venus, Mars, or Jupiter is in my 1st house etc.
B. Sun in partner´s houses doesn´t really rule anything by itself. It´s one of the supportive factors, like where they shine most in your personal dealings with them: you love to talk to them? (3rd house), have fun with them? (5 house), take care of them? (6 house) etc.
C. I would consider the ASC of the other person in your houses to be a third-rate factor. Certainly not something that would decide whether the relationship might be successful or not.
D. The placement of the Ascendant ruler in your houses kind of indicates how you react to them. Let´s say they have Ascendant in Virgo and their Mercury falls into your 5th house = you will be amused by this person, etc.

Question 3 Definitely conjunction is the strongest one, though not always the most beneficial. In synastry oppositions tend to be quite strongly binding too. But you are asking "regardless of the planets involved´... there is no such thing. It matters how strong the planets are and how contrary or similar their nature is. Mars opposite Saturn may be better in natal than Mars conjunct Saturn, but in the relationship it will be the other way round. Trines in synastry are supportive when you already have some strong connection points through conjunctions or oppositions. If you have just trines with someone it doesn´t cause any intense interaction. Squares sometimes make interaction very inspiring and interesting and don´t eliminate possibility of romance/friendship, but it depends on the planets involved, houses, signs and the role of participating planets in natal charts. Sextiles are minor harmonious aspects, supportive but not deciding about anything.
Having said that, we should look at the aspects as the complex picture of the flow of the energies. An example: I have Saturn opposite Sun in my natal, anything sextile to my Saturn and trine my Sun, or sectile my Sun, trine my Saturn will have beneficial effect on resolving this difficult opposition, so I am attracted to people who have Sun. Moon, Mercury or Venus in sextile or trine to my Sun or Saturn. The importance of the aspects between yours and your partner´s planets partially depends on the natal energy channels.

Question 4. To my knowledge there is no definite answer. Conjunction of the Moons seems to work magic from my observation, but with all the other aspects it will be different. Sun-Moon is good, Venus-Sun, Venus-Moon, Venus -Mars, Mars-Moon etc. Much depends on which house the given planet is ruling and how strong/damaged it is in natal. (Like for me any conjunctions to my Sun will ruin it eventually because of the natal opposition from Saturn).

I cannot comment on the example you gave, who is most compatible from 4 options. It´s not possible to judge compatibility from just Sun. Moon and Ascendant in Zodiac signs, no way.
April 9, 2021 at 15:06
(Capricorn) Missgemma789
Synastry is a method of determining a couple´s compatibility and fate by combining two astrological charts, if the relationship is doomed to be a karmic star cross lovers short-term connection with many lessons and debt to be paid from both parties, or whether the relationship is destined for longevity.
(According to the metaphor,The fate of the relationship is written in the stars.)


For instance, if you are the man in this equation who is attracted to the opposite sex,

I recommend that you look at your moon and Venus placements, because the characteristics of those planets will reveal what kind of women you´ll need and desire in a long-term relationship that will stand the test of time, because the masculine energy
will always feel at home in the sign of his Venus and moon.



The creme de la creme aspect to have in synastry is Venus conjunct the Sun, This adds a lot of love and intimacy to the relationship as Venus has met their other half, (I can tell you that this is not a one-sided attraction) The planet that shines the brightest in this aspect is the sun individual, Since the sun is his ideal, Venus lavishes his love on her and the sun person returns the favour, because He makes her feel pulchritudinous, as if she were a goddess, The sun admires Venus´ qualities, and both parties enjoy spending time together, with chemistry that is off the charts!!! This is a love at first sight factor which is commonly found in married couples
This aspects suggests that your relationship has the potential to blossom into a enduring intimate bond.

Followed by
In synastry, Venus conjunct ascendant is a very shallow aspect to find amongst couples. (the Venus person) would be enamoured with the person´s physical appearance and the way she portrays herself to the world,
and you could struggle detecting any flaws because you are lost in her aura as she is the embodiment of perfection in your eyes and you can´t get enough of her, she’s constantly on your mind
and is your ideal partner as you envision him or her to appear on the surface.
Unless there are double whammy aspects to support this aspect synastry such as (Venus conjunct sun, Venus trine ascendant, etc)
Venus will be taken for granted by the ascendant, who will only feed off the attention showered by Venus, which is the tragedy of this placement, because the Venusian will believe that their love and devotion is never reciprocated.
This aspect will result in a one-sided attraction. since you, (Mr. Venus),are infatuated by the ascendant, and thus you are the giver in this scenario while she plays the recipient,
as the ascendant individual may not find you aesthetically appealing, nevertheless she will feel at ease in your presence and recognises the many similarities you both have in common.


Square aspects generate an instant and mesmerising attraction between two individuals, despite their incompatibility. It´s also possible that these aspects manifest as a karmic connection in disguise.
You may both begin to resent each other after the honeymoon period has passed because you have diametrically opposed personality traits, and animosity becomes a recurrent theme in your relationship, and Both of you are mentally capable of breaking each other apart.





Strongest synastry aspects

Sun conjunct Descendant
Sun conjunct or opposition Vertex
Sun conjunct North Node
Sun hard aspect (conjunct, square, opposition Sun/Moon
Sun in 7th house
Moon conjunct Descendant
Moon conjunct or opposition Vertex
Moon conjunct North Node
Moon hard aspect square, opposition
Ascendant conjunct North Node

Very strong compatibility factors

Sun trine or sextile Sun
Sun conjunct, trine, or sextile Moon
Sun conjunct Venus
Sun trine Venus
Sun trine or sextile Mars
Sun conjunct, sextile, or trine Jupiter
Sun sextile or trine Saturn
Sun conjunct, trine, or sextile Chiron
Sun conjunct Ascendant
Sun conjunct South Node
Sun in 1st house
Moon conjunct, sextile, or trine Moon
Moon conjunct, sextile, or trine Venus
Moon sextile or trine Mars
Moon conjunct, sextile, or trine Jupiter
Moon sextile or trine Saturn
Moon conjunct, trine, or sextile Chiron
Moon conjunct Ascendant
Moon sextile or trine Ascendant
Moon conjunct IC
Moon conjunct South Node
Moon in 7th house
Moon in 1st house
Mercury conjunct, sextile, or trine Jupiter
Venus conjunct, sextile, trine, or opposition Venus
Venus conjunct, sextile, or trine Mars
Venus conjunct Jupiter
Venus sextile or trine Saturn
Venus conjunct, trine, or sextile Chiron
Venus conjunct Ascendant
Venus conjunct Descendant
Venus hard aspect (conjunct, square, opposition)
Venus in 7th house
Mars hard aspect (conjunct, square, opposition)

Ascendant conjunct South Node
Ascendant hard aspect (conjunct, square, opposition)
Ascendant in 7th house
Vertex hard aspect (conjunct, square, opposition Sun/Moon
Nodes of the Moon conjunct IC/MC



To Recognise Overall Patterns on Your Astrological Birth Chart, Remember to look at your whole birth chart (rather than just your sun sign) if you want a proper insight into your psyche.


There are four elements in the zodiac, between which the 12 zodiac signs are split evenly (so, three each). These three are believed to be most compatible with each other due to their commonalities and shared values


Earth Signs (Taurus, Capricorn and Virgo) are renowned for their practicality, stability, realism and persistence.

Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius (Fire Signs) are known for their zeal, courage, and deep gut instincts. Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces are the most sensitive, idealistic, and kind of the zodiac signs. The Air Signs (Gemini, Aquarius, and Libra) are the most communicative, social, and open-minded of the zodiac signs.

Elements have a tendency to paint signs in large strokes, but they´re entertaining to consider when contemplating your friendship, family, and romantic relationships. (As an earth sign, I find myself drawn to water signs.)


A cluster of your planets (referred to as an planet stellium)placed in one of your partner´s twelve houses, symbolises your feelings for your partner and reveals dynamic themes that will manifest in your relationship. Stellium’s can be a beneficial substitute for unaspected synastry, however, since house placements only keep people´s interest for a short time as the chemistry will never be on the same page as planetary aspects.






Placements that are great for sexual or intense relationships


Sun or Venus in 5th house of romance, love and affairs, play creativity, fertility, childlike spirit, joy, self expression drama,
The best placements for synastry If (man is sun and Venus)

Venus in the 5th house
The ascendant individual´s partner will have a deep desire to have children with Venus.
(Venus governs over courtship and adoration, as aesthetics and personal taste.)
In the midst of the crowd, Venus would notice the house person because they stand out and are mesmerising, as everything about the house person takes Venus´ breath away.
(This is a personal opinion)
The house person may appear to the rest of the world as a regular Joe or Jane. In reality. On the other hand, you consider the house person to be the most beautiful thing on the planet.(You venus)overlook any flaws and decide that ascendents´ flaws are acceptable because everything about the house person is perfect in every way.


Sun in the 5th house overlay
You may feel envious and possessive of your partner because you want to be the only one who gives him/her pleasure! Your partner is likely to feel the same way about you. When you´re around your partner, you give them a huge ego boost, and they´re unlikely to get tired of it. Nonetheless, your partner generally enjoys being around you. You bring out his/her romantic side as well as his/her sense of humour. You two enjoy playing games, socialising, participating in sports, and going on romantic dates with one another.


The 7th house represents our polar opposite, or the polar opposite of our Ascendant or Sun Sign. This is a person who possesses many of the characteristics that we admire but may lack in ourselves. These differences, if valued rather than fought over, can help both people learn a lot and grow into better, more rounded people.



Venus in the 7th house
You think of them as the ideal mate. They possess the qualities that you want in a romantic partner. In a relationship with you, the house individual is very relaxed and content.
The house person is very at ease and content in his or her relationship with you. The house individual understands that they do not need to make any compromises or accommodations for you because you are a perfect fit. You (Venus) are very good at meeting their needs.


Sun in 7th house
In synastry, this is one of the best indicators of long-term compatibility and marriage. You pique your partner´s interest in commitment, marriage, and partnership. Your partner may regard you as the "ideal mate"; you are your partner´s ideal match! The danger here is that your individual personalities can be lost. When this happens, each of you may rebel against each other as you struggle to regain your individuality.


I hope this information is helpful, and please don´t hesitate to contact me if you have any further questions. :1:


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