What makes this person asexual? - Discussions, questions

Riverr » Catch-22 Asexual is simply lacking sexual attraction to other people. We do not reproduce asexually, it´s just a word to describe someone with little to no sexual attraction toward others.

moongirl1 » Ways_of_Leavin' Oh, thank you very much for such a detailed analysis!

aeltario Well the person in astrology or her sexuality will be defined by malefic planets not by benefic planets but also pluto can give like trascedental planet can give sexuality.Mars Satun Pluto will always give sexuality in person.Benefic planet can give a pleasure in person some sweatness but never sexuality.

Catch-22 » fishscales Agreed.

There´s no difference between life force and sexual energy. They are just the same thing. 2 years ago I had a totally different idea about it, but teaching after teaching I came to accept this.

This doesn´t mean people screwing around with everybody are more alive than those who are into celibacy. The expression of our sexuality is something very different and I still need to grasp the "finesse" of it.

fishscales Sexual energy cannot be "dispensed with", or simply "disappear." It is the most powerful force in the universe...the creative force...whether you are "asexual" or not, you are here because of it...everything that is alive is filled with sexual energy.

If it cannot be expressed in the way it was meant to be, it will express itself in other ways of a negative variety: disorders, perversions, sicknesses, etc.

The sexual energy can be sublimated...but it is doubtful that those who declare themselves "asexual" are spending hours a day doing pranayama (specific breathing exercises) to sublimate their sexual force...and even then, the sexual energy does not disappear, it is merely redirected into proper channels, under the guidance and control of the practitioner...not repressed, or treated with an attitude of aversion.

Catch-22 » lightning It doesn´t work that way.

I really can believe she feels that way. It´s something that I also used to think, that sex wasn´t something for me. Biologically she is set up for having sex. One day this will surface. It´s not because this is not expressed at this moment it never will. And even if she doesn´t have sex ever, which is possible, she had sexual organs...

*SPOILER ALERT*
It´s like the asexual storyteller in Nymphomaniac, in the end it suddenly and tragically surfaces.

You can be mad at the people who claim it, but we are all sexual beings, even if we don´t have sex at all.

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Hi :)
Unfortunately i cant tell you why she is asexual according to her birth chart ... But i had to write here, because i have read several times that asexuality doesnt exist and it makes me really annoyed and a little angry, when people tell other people what they are or are not, because to me it feels like a disrespect.

If your friend says she identifies as asexual, she is asexual and the only person allowed to question this is herself. :))

Ways_of_Leavin' I second what most people here seemed to agree on - that no person is truly asexual, and I think here we are not speaking about someone who could be prone to a lack of such feelings either. She has Mars conjunct Pluto so on the contrary she could have a huge sex drive. As well, her conjunction takes place in a fire sign (Mars functions well in fire), in the 5th house (need I say more...). 5th house ruler in the 5th (conjunct Mars...), 8th house ruler in the 8th... nah.

Probably she has some kind of block like others´ have mentioned. Mars is in opposition to Saturn. 5th H ruler, Pluto, is also in hard aspect to Saturn. Pluto can be obsessed with control (yes, Pluto can both be obsessed and controlling) - with Mars conjunct Pluto sexuality could possibly be power based. She is a Cancer Sun with a Scorpio Moon which may or may not support this (wanting control in general). As a Cancer Sun/Asc we should be dealing with someone extraordinarily sensitive; chart ruler Moon is in Scorpio in the 4th too, squaring Neptune in the 7th. Venus in Taurus, especially coupled with that Cancer Sun should give much sensuality. Perhaps she has trust issues, or didn´t find the right one yet? I see Taurus/Cancer/Scorpio as very possessive and interested in long-term instead of flings (but you never know...) I see also her Venus forms a quincunx to Chiron... that one is possibly a biggie and could lead her to have insecurities in regards to Venusian qualities/areas - love, relationships, appearance...

Well both Venus and Mars are in ´hard´ aspect to Chiron actually... Some wounding in the matters related to these two planets could be present... I don´t want to speculate any more on the exact issue, but whatever it is I´m sure it is not something life-long.

moongirl1 » Boyan Thankss

Boyan Mars in the 5th house is a sign of strong sexuality.
But it is challenged with from Saturn. Which indicates celibacy or long periods of abstinence. More so because in this combination there is fire sign involved.
Neptune in 7th house does not help also. It gives sometimes unrealistic expectation of love or falling in love with someone that is out of reach.

moongirl1 » nikkia Moon in Cancer in 12th

moongirl1 » LotusStar Thank you so much

nikkia » LotusStar Hmmmm, makes me wonder where her progressed moon is right now.

LotusStar Uranus in Aquarius in the 8th can indicate some frigidity or more cerebral approach to sexuality. Pluto is conjunct Mars, but I would also consider the opposition of Saturn, these can show repressed sexuality, rooted in a fear of loss of control, loss of power, or fear of being physically vulnerable.

Both Pluto and Uranus are known to go to extremes, from one end of the spectrum to the other. And they are tied into their sexual planets (Venus, Mars).

Having a Scorpio Moon maybe it will change.

moongirl1 » Catch-22 Thank you!!

moongirl1 » Ioaanaa08 Thanks

Catch-22 I doubt she is asexual. Humans are sexual beings. Ferns, fungi, yeasts,... are asexual.

I can assume there´s a blockade on it, like in the 5th house but also which may indicate she will overcome this wound.

Mars is in 5th too, in which may indicate passion and happiness. in in 8th may eventually indicate an alternative sex experience. I´m not an xp astrologer, but my thoughts are she´s not on terms with an aspect of her sexuality and she suppresses it by claiming not being interested in sex. Once she overcomes this, it will flow.

I understand. I was very insecure being a young boy about sex, I did not know I had Asperger´s at the moment. Once I cleaned up the mess in myself and had 2 relationships in a row besides some ehm... messing around. One of those became my wife. I also claimed I was asexual, because I never had a gf or watched porn. This has completely turned and now I have to watch myself not to loose myself and my values.

So I don´t know how old your friend is, but I really doubt she is asexual unless she´s a mushroom or so

Ioaanaa08 Maybe it´s mars being in between Pluto and Chiron in the 5th house of romance and dating

moongirl1 » fishscales Thank you

moongirl1 » fishscales Thank you!

moongirl1 » nikkia Thanks!

fishscales Ruler of 8th, Saturn, in opposition to sexually passionate planets Mars and Pluto

Uranus in 8th squaring Venus probably doesn´t help

Chiron in 5th as well

rohini moon » nikkia "Menopause "

nikkia Menopause

Pluto in Sag, your friend is still young yet. I don´t know her background or state of mind. Barring any traumatic events, mental, or religious reasons, I would look towards physical health / hormonal imbalances for an answer.